Reasons why every woman should masturbate

Have you ever wondered why we as women should masturbate (especially if you have a partner)?

I always wondered about this as my personal opinion and behaviour was "Why would I do this when he can do it for me?"

WRONG!

As I have said in the past and will say again,

"If your not having sex with you, how can you expect anyone else to want to have sex with you!"

So now its time to look at a bunch of reasons why YOU should masturbate and I will make it as plain and simple as I can.

You become more comfortable with your body

Here is the deal, the more you know your body the better you are at instructing your partner on where to go hunting for that sometimes mysterious spot that ends in an orgasm. Your pussy doesn't come with a manual just like a baby doesn't pop out with an instruction manual so ladies know where all your points of pleasure exist, instruct your partner and enjoy the increased new found bliss that comes with it.

Your future partner will commend you for it

Do you know how hard it is to navigate every different vagina? I bet you didn't. Its not like a guys anatomy. Ours is more complicated ladies with different sensations in different places for all of us. 

Its NOT a one size fits all concept where a partner learns one road map and it suits all women. So learn what makes you tick and talk talk talk about it!

It can drastically improve your sex life

When you know where to navigate and pass that information on, whether that is through subtle hints and tips or just a blunt "show an tell" session, trust me, there is no way your sex life can't instantly improve.

Great tension reliever

Stressed? Can't sleep? Simply...masturbate. Now depending on that stress level may depend on how many times you need to do this to 'take the edge off' however masturbation has always been a great stress relief. I mean think about, don't you occasionally say "Thank God" after you've experienced a Big O? I do!

Definitely helps with the zzzzz

Now I know that its not uncommon that when I have sex at night I can end up wide awake (statistically this is common within women), however when I am stressed out and go for a Big O I find that that release in tension (like I said above) helps me to visit la la land much faster.

Increases your happiness

How would you like to have a natural mood enhancer? Did you know that orgasms release a bunch of chemicals into your system like endorphins, oxytocin and our favourite...dopamine, which are all instant uplift mood enhancers?

So forget the hardcore gym workout and medical drugs and opt for a series of intense orgasms instead to lighten up your day.

There are toys to assist in the exploration process

I could list 20 reasons why you are not having sex or masturbating right now. One of them is you never experience orgasms during sex (and a biggy for 85% of women who don't orgasm with penetration sex). So why not instead of letting your fingers do the walking add a new playmate toy to search, discover and vibrate you into a new level playing field. Toys are also great for those who have cultural, religious or physical disabilities to experience a whole new level of pleasure without technically getting your hands dirty. I have never heard of a woman not being pleasured with the right toy so I dare you to try!

Amazingly relieves menstrual tension

Personally I've never been a big fan of having sex during 'that time of the month' however I have noticed that an orgasm has definitely alleviated the pain I experience at this time. When you orgasm you experience contractions increasing the blood flow and in-turn easing your cramps. Due to the mess factor I suggest finding your favourite toy and combining that with some special shower time to get the job done. Would you prefer a hot water bottle or an orgasm? Think about it.

Keeps your body sexual

So your in a sexual hiatus for some reason. With masturbating you are not only keeping the elasticity and tissues in your private parts working, you are also increasing the blood flow to that area. Sex for women happens in the brain as we all know and by masturbating we are keeping that part of our brain active (imaginary and sensory) so when we get to bringing in a new partner to the scenario its like no time has passed. Here is a tip: the more sex you have the more sex you want!

How would you like multiple orgasms

So some of you have never had one. Why not try multiple. Did you know that when you have your first orgasm its easy to back it up with another one within minutes? Again a lot of women only experience this the first time after a little toy play cause lets face it...our hands get tired!

 

Why not?

Thats right...why not. I know some of us have cultural and religious beliefs that get in the way of having sex before marriage however since when have they stated you can't orgasm before marriage? So let your fingers do the walking and hold clear a vision of your future partners expression when you know what does and doesn't work the first time you get naked between the sheets.

It feels bloody amazing

Did I mention is F'n fantastic! You can keep your walks in the park thank you. I'll take a mind blowing orgasm any day. Your head will feel light, even a little dizzy like, your breath will quicken, your cheeks will go naturally rosie and you'll feel simply amazing! 

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Smaller the average penis? No Problem!

It’s the age old question: Does size really matter? Dr. Emily Morse is here to answer your questions about what to do if your man isn’t so well endowed. It’s not as bad of a situation as you might think.

 

In short, penis size doesn’t have to be a pleasure deal-breaker – You can still have amazing sex with a partner whose penis length is less-than-average. Here are 3 tips to help you navigate this small situation and maximize pleasure for both parties!


1. Amp Up The Foreplay:

This is a tip for all men, regardless of what they’re packing down below, because guess what? The majority of women cannot orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Only about 20-30% of ladies consistently climax from plain old penis-and-vagina sex, meaning that less-endowed dudes have as much of a shot as any at providing their partners with multiple O’s.

This is his chance to make the most of the other tools he has at his disposal: his hands and his mouth. The more aroused you are before intercourse, the more likely you will be to have an orgasm. If he goes so far as to deliver you a couple orgasms before his penis even comes into play, then he will have one satisfied customer no matter what goes down in the main event.

2. Mind Your Positions:

There are two main types of orgasms women experience – the oh-so-elusive G-Spot orgasm and the more common clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is located outside of the vagina, (no penis necessary) and your G-Spot is nestled just a few inches inside, meaning you don’t really need a massive member to hit your sweet spots. It’s all about picking the best positions that makes optimal use of what he’s got.

Skip positions like missionary when you can, which aren’t as flattering for his size. Instead, opt for a woman-on-top position that puts the perfect amount of pressure on your clitoris and allows you to control depth and angle of penetration. Also, employ a grinding motion rather than a bounce in order to rub your pleasure points the right way. Another great option: the always popular doggie style! This position allows for some deep penetration, plus it will enable his penis to rub against your G-Spot.

Also, you can get the prime position for some intense penetration by bringing in some a few pillows to place under your womans hips which puts you at the perfect angle for some effort-free G-Spot stimulation and extra-deep intercourse.

3. Sex Toys for Two:

Bringing a sex toy into your lovemaking is great for multiple reasons. It’s kinky, it feels great and it takes a little pressure off your guy and his equipment. My personal favorite couples’ vibrator is the We-Vibe 4 – It’s a toy you can actually wear during intercourse, and is especially useful if your partner is lacking a little in the girth department.

The toy has two prongs, one of which inserts into your vagina while the other rests on top of your clitoris for two times the pleasure! The We-Vibe helps fill you up, making it a tighter fit for your partner, and provides a vibrating sensation that you both will enjoy. Now you can also enjoy it with the new App from anywhere pretty much on the globe!

In essence, there’s no reason to rule out a partner based on the size of their package. If they learn to master other bedroom skills, and are willing to work with what they’ve got, you can still have a very satisfying and orgasmic sex life. After all, it’s the lover, not the sex (or the sex organs, as the case may be), that give the pleasure.


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What Women Want Now

Did you know that we’re in the midst of a sexual revolution? Based on data we’ve collected from our Global Survey as well as some external sources of info, we’ve established that now more than ever, women are seizing control in the bedroom like never before, and are not afraid to get what they want!

So now, to celebrate the recent launch of our Dare Me and Indulge Me Pleasure Sets of hand-picked LELO items, we present to you our latest infographic that details what women want in 2012, the year ‘Vanilla’ turned ‘Grey’ – enjoy!

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Reaching Climax During Lovemaking

Did you know that our leading supplier LELO’s Wellbeing Experts write a monthly column in Wellness Magazine?

Well, considering that it’s a Sweden-only publication written entirely in Swedish, we don’t blame you if you’ve never heard of it. Every month, reader questions are passed to our experts, who give their advice on sex-related issues that are on the minds of many.

Hi LELO!

My boyfriend comes pretty quickly when we’re having sex, and this leaves me having my orgasms in ways other than penetration. While not a complaint per-se, I’d like to be able to climax while we’re having sex.

Is there anything you can suggest to either help him last longer, or are there any tricks or moves to speed up the process for me?

Marie

Marie,

So it seems your boyfriend is finishing too quickly for you both to enjoy the main event, but what about the pre-game warm up?

Men and women are very different creatures, sexually speaking, and there’s a state of arousal called the ‘orgasmic plateau’, where, in both sexes, orgasm is imminent. It takes women considerably longer to reach this stage than men, so if you’re looking for more mutually-timed orgasms, we suggest a little forward thinking when it comes to foreplay.

You both need to spend some more time focusing on what comes before the actual act of sex itself, getting you ‘revved up’, so to speak, so that you’re as close as you can be to attaining an orgasm during penetrative sex.

Try incorporating a small external vibrator like NEA, ALIA or MIA 2  that can be used easily by you and your partner to get you to your plateau in a fast and fun way.

If your issue is that during lovemaking you get close, so close, right to the edge of climax – only to have him finish before you, try adding some extra ‘oomph’ to your intercourse.

There exist vibrators that you or he are able to wear during sex that will provide you with a bit extra rumble to get you over the edge of that plateau and tumbling into ‘orgasm valley’ (not a real term, but it works).

Try something like TOR 2 – a vibrating ring he can wear around his member that will not only supply external vibrations for you, but the gentle constriction of the ring can result in extra stamina for him – making it a sensual win/win situation!

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