Less Slap, More Tickle: A Whip & Teaser Comparison

Sex is all about sensational sensations, intricate intimacy, emotional motion and, most importantly, mind-blowing pleasure. At LELO, we’re known for a very specific kind of pleasure: the orgasmically vibrating kind. But we offer so much more than that, and today we’re going to look at and compare two of our products you might not have considered before: the LELO Sensua Whip and the  Feather Teaser.

The fascinating thing about the Sensua Whip and the feather teaser is that they’re simultaneously very similar, and yet completely different. Used together, they become more than the sum of their sensual parts.

The LELO Sensua Whip

About The Whip

With a cool, transparent handle and a 10 inch fall in the cow suede tails, the Sensua whip brings together an intense blend of sensations. It’s light and well-balanced in the hand, providing enough leverage and control to offer a warm sting but not a heavy thud. The suede is leather on one side and coarse on the other for an impact that soothes and stings at the same time. It’s a complex sensation, which is why it’s so popular.

What’s The Attraction?

The attraction is the beautiful material, the feel against the skin, and the intimacy of indulging in kinkier, more daring avenues of pleasure between trusting couples. This little flogger is every bit as much a pleasure product as everything else we offer.

How Does It Feel?

How it feels depends on how it’s used. Blindfolding your partner and tracing the tips of this flogger over their neck, their sides, their knees and their toes generates a feeling of massaging warmth. But restrain your partner (we have a very sexy light-bondage kit for exactly this purpose) and use more energy, and the whip becomes a valuable tool for dominance and submission. Don’t be fooled: as a flogger, the Sensua is relatively small, but it punches above its weight thanks to the heavy suede. It will leave marks, but it won’t break the skin. It’s the perfect balance for heavier BDSM players.

About The Teaser

Ostensibly similar in form to the whip, the Teaser is entirely different in function. The teaser leaves up to its name: it teases, making it an exceptional companion during exploratory tantric foreplay. It’s smaller than the whip, and its long, fluffy down feathers are incredibly soft. No sting or thud here: the teaser is designed to be drawn slowly over skin, over the curve of the elbow and the back of the knee for a long, indulgent sensation.

What’s The Attraction?

The attraction is the time you can spend exploring each other’s bodies. The feather teaser is for couples who want to spoil each other. Such a luxurious pleasure product is firmly in the domain of those who know how to tease before they please – the perfect way to get the pulse racing in excited anticipation.

How Does It Feel?

The feeling of being stroked with the teaser is one of almost unbearable torment: you want to be touched, you want it now, but the delicate lightness of the feathers on your skin forbids it. Add restraints and a blindfold and watch your partner writhe and moan under your touch. Mix up the sensations with a few sharp spanks, or even with the Sensua whip.

Whether you crave the flick of the feather or the lick of the leather, these two sophisticated pleasure products offer the best of both worlds. They can be kinky, or sensual, or neither, or both: it’s up to you to imagine how to use them.

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So, You Wanna Be a Dominant?

By CJ Edwards, August 4, 2014

Takeaway:Realizing your dominant fantasy isn't as simple as you might imagine. Here are some skills you need to hone first.

DARE ME PLEASURE SET

It seems like a dream come true - a dutiful slave (or two) at your beck and call, ready and willing to submit to your every sexual whim, no matter how raunchy. No, you aren’t weird - a little kinky, maybe, but not weird. In the BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism) community, you would be referred to as a dominant. However, actually realizing this fantasy is often much more difficult than you can imagine. Not only does it require a true desire to be in control, but it also requires a number of other characteristics, some of which may surprise you. 

So, do you have what it takes to be a dominant? Let’s find out, shall we? 

Assertiveness

This is perhaps one of the most obvious qualities that every dominant needs to possess. In fact, assertiveness is an absolute must. 

To be a good dominant, you need to know what you want and not be afraid to voice those desires to your submissives. Now's not the time to be polite, so forget what your mama taught you and nix the "please" and "thank you." Instead, issue concise commands to get your point across. In other words, assert yourself!

Self-Confidence

If you lack self-confidence, you won't cut it as a dominant - and you probably won't enjoy it either. Other dominants, and even submissive, can smell a lack of self-confidence from a mile away. To be a good dominant, you can't constantly be worried about how you look to others or wondering what your submissives are thinking about you. 

That said, flexing your dominant muscles can do wonders to boost a flagging self esteem. If all you need is a little push, give this role a shot. As for the self confidence, there's only one thing you can do at first: fake it! Put yourself in the mindset that you are powerful, a sex god or goddess. Even if you're new to the whole dominant thing and have no clue what you're doing, faking it can go a long way toward helping you build true confidence.

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Communication

Communication is important during any sexual encounter, but it's extremely important during a BDSM scene. Open communication between a dominant and submissive is vital. As a dominant, you should be comfortable expressing your sexual wants and needs. You should also encourage your submissives to talk to you about what they want from the experience. 

Before any BDSM activity, or "scene," it's important to establish what roles everyone will play as well as well as any limitations participants may have. For example, you may be looking forward to a good caning. That's cool, just don't assume that your partner will be as receptive.

Also, always establish safewords before any scene. Traffic light colors - red, yellow and green - are widely considered to be universal safewords. Red obviously means "stop everything right now!" Yellow means "slow down" or "back off" but don't stop completely." Green, of course, means "bring it on!" 

If you choose to use your own safewords, make sure that they are words or phrases that could not possibly be brought up during a scene. For instance, "stop" or "you're hurting me" are generally very bad safewords because they might be used as part of play, whereas "jellybean" and "itsy bitsy spider" will work, if that's what you're into.

Responsibility

Being a good dominant involves a great deal of responsibility. Not only are you responsible for pleasuring others, you're also often responsible for their physical safety and emotional well-being. In fact, safety should come first, even before your or your partner's desires. If something seems unsafe, it's often best to avoid it and move on, especially if you and your partner don't know each other well. 

Respect

This may be a surprising attribute for a dominant, but it's one of the most important! You absolutely must have respect for both yourself and your submissives. 

Sure, submissives may expect a degree of humiliation spewing from your mouth, but don't take that to mean you can dish out real abuse. You must still respect their limits and get to know what they find arousing before you go all out. 

Self-Control

The perceived control that a dominant has over a submissive is nothing but myth. In reality, it is the submissive who has most of the power. Like respect, self-control is an absolute must for a dominant. Unfortunately, this can be one of the hardest things to learn, and it's especially hard to put into action during a scene. Dominants should be responsible for their submissives as well as their actions. If you lose your self control, you could lose your submissive. 

Knowledge 

Wanting to be a dominant is one thing. Understanding exactly what comes with such a powerful position is another. You can always add a little kink to your sexual repertoire, but BDSM takes it a little further. Be prepared to take the time to learn the ropes, so to speak, and educate yourself on the tools of the trade. Make sure that you take the time to learn how to safely use toys, bondage equipment, crops and any other equipment. (Check out some kinky bondage toys here.)

Patience

Training your submissive and learning how to be a good dominant takes a great deal of time and patience. You won't become a dominant overnight, so be prepared to sink some time into honing your craft. Start by reading everything you can on the subject, or perhaps consider learning from someone in the BDSM community. Finally, remember that practice makes perfect!

And then, if BDSM is right for you, get out there and whip some tussles!

WHIPS

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What Women Want Now

Did you know that we’re in the midst of a sexual revolution? Based on data we’ve collected from our Global Survey as well as some external sources of info, we’ve established that now more than ever, women are seizing control in the bedroom like never before, and are not afraid to get what they want!

So now, to celebrate the recent launch of our Dare Me and Indulge Me Pleasure Sets of hand-picked LELO items, we present to you our latest infographic that details what women want in 2012, the year ‘Vanilla’ turned ‘Grey’ – enjoy!

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