50 Shades of Grey Trailer Review

Written by Jessica Hill

Well, this isn’t going to end well for anyone.

It’s been a couple of years in development hell but now, at long last, we can dust off our old 50 Shades puns and start all over again. Have you heard that Christian Grey was fired from his company after a salary scandal? There were 50 Grades of Pay. Apparently he went bankrupt and had to work on a farm to pay off his debts. He had to harvest 50 Bales Of Hay. After that, he had to be very frugal when it came to buying new bondage equipment. He had to be Thrifty Shades Of Grey.

But that’s not what we’re here for. We’re here because the first global trailer has been released, and we owe it to you and ourselves to take a closer look and make a few guesses about the final 50 Shades of Grey movie, when it’s released in 2015. On Valentine’s Day. Yeah, perfect first date material.

Here’s the trailer, just in case you’ve been trapped in an elevator for the past week and missed it. In fact, if you have been trapped in an elevator for a week, you’ll feel right at home with this trailer. Elevators feature quite heavily.

And there we have it. 2 minutes and 20 seconds of women looking nervous in elevators and men looking absently out of windows. And a dinner scene with the in-laws. Raunchy stuff.

Let’s recap what we’ve seen.

We meet Ana Steele straight off the bat, looking like the unlikely offspring of Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada and Zooey Deschanel in everything Zooey Deschanel has ever been in.

Anastasia has a couple of questions for Mr. Grey, so she wanders into his reception – which is apparently staffed entirely by Aryan Fembots from the future.

And soon, Ana is led meekly into Grey’s office. He stands, looking intensely out of the window. This is another recurring theme with Mr. Grey: Ana has her elevators, Christian has his windows.

Then the trailer teases us with shot after shot of out of focus Grey’s…

And then… BOOM. Moneyshot. You have to hand it to them, after auditioning just about every man in Hollywood, the final Christian Grey (Jamie Dornan) is pretty on point – maybe because there’s just a hint of Colin Firth about him.

Obviously, Ana is thunderstruck straight away, as you can tell from this shot of her getting into an elevator.

And before you know it, Cristian is trying to suck Ana’s eyes out. In an elevator.

And the rest is history. There’s some other stuff in the trailer, for example this shot of Christian piloting a glider and very literally turning Ana’s world upside down, which is a bit heavy-handed for a trailer.

So what can we learn about the finished film from this trailer? Well, there’s good news, and there’s bad news. There’s not an inner goddess, an “oh my” or a “laters babe” anywhere in sight. Hurrah, that’s good news. And on the whole it seems like the filmmakers have done justice to the source material without just blindly following it. 

The shattered sphere sculpture, the moody, listing ships, the chair deliberately chosen to make Anastasia look small, it’s all very clever scenery and it shows that, whatever the final movie is like, it’s going to be close in tone to the book.

Very promising. Also promising is the little glimpses we get of the Red Room and of the sex scenes.

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On first impressions, then, the sex scenes look pretty good – as long as you consider the sex scenes in the book good, of course. They appear pretty accurate, relatively explicit, and created by people who know what they’re doing. In fact, we know that the filmmakers were experts, because they chose the LELO Intima silk blindfold. Christian Grey really DOES have class.

In Conclusion…

Whether you love the 50 Shades series or hate it, you can’t deny that one of the major outcomes was that it opened up conversations all over the world about sex. Every generation has its sexually-defining piece of media, 50 Shades is ours and whether it’s done more harm than good is still up for debate. But that’s part of the point: the fact that it’s generating debate at all is a progressive sign.

I guess we’ll have to reserve judgement for now. In the meantime…

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So, You Wanna Be a Dominant?

By CJ Edwards, August 4, 2014

Takeaway:Realizing your dominant fantasy isn't as simple as you might imagine. Here are some skills you need to hone first.

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It seems like a dream come true - a dutiful slave (or two) at your beck and call, ready and willing to submit to your every sexual whim, no matter how raunchy. No, you aren’t weird - a little kinky, maybe, but not weird. In the BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism) community, you would be referred to as a dominant. However, actually realizing this fantasy is often much more difficult than you can imagine. Not only does it require a true desire to be in control, but it also requires a number of other characteristics, some of which may surprise you. 

So, do you have what it takes to be a dominant? Let’s find out, shall we? 

Assertiveness

This is perhaps one of the most obvious qualities that every dominant needs to possess. In fact, assertiveness is an absolute must. 

To be a good dominant, you need to know what you want and not be afraid to voice those desires to your submissives. Now's not the time to be polite, so forget what your mama taught you and nix the "please" and "thank you." Instead, issue concise commands to get your point across. In other words, assert yourself!

Self-Confidence

If you lack self-confidence, you won't cut it as a dominant - and you probably won't enjoy it either. Other dominants, and even submissive, can smell a lack of self-confidence from a mile away. To be a good dominant, you can't constantly be worried about how you look to others or wondering what your submissives are thinking about you. 

That said, flexing your dominant muscles can do wonders to boost a flagging self esteem. If all you need is a little push, give this role a shot. As for the self confidence, there's only one thing you can do at first: fake it! Put yourself in the mindset that you are powerful, a sex god or goddess. Even if you're new to the whole dominant thing and have no clue what you're doing, faking it can go a long way toward helping you build true confidence.

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Communication

Communication is important during any sexual encounter, but it's extremely important during a BDSM scene. Open communication between a dominant and submissive is vital. As a dominant, you should be comfortable expressing your sexual wants and needs. You should also encourage your submissives to talk to you about what they want from the experience. 

Before any BDSM activity, or "scene," it's important to establish what roles everyone will play as well as well as any limitations participants may have. For example, you may be looking forward to a good caning. That's cool, just don't assume that your partner will be as receptive.

Also, always establish safewords before any scene. Traffic light colors - red, yellow and green - are widely considered to be universal safewords. Red obviously means "stop everything right now!" Yellow means "slow down" or "back off" but don't stop completely." Green, of course, means "bring it on!" 

If you choose to use your own safewords, make sure that they are words or phrases that could not possibly be brought up during a scene. For instance, "stop" or "you're hurting me" are generally very bad safewords because they might be used as part of play, whereas "jellybean" and "itsy bitsy spider" will work, if that's what you're into.

Responsibility

Being a good dominant involves a great deal of responsibility. Not only are you responsible for pleasuring others, you're also often responsible for their physical safety and emotional well-being. In fact, safety should come first, even before your or your partner's desires. If something seems unsafe, it's often best to avoid it and move on, especially if you and your partner don't know each other well. 

Respect

This may be a surprising attribute for a dominant, but it's one of the most important! You absolutely must have respect for both yourself and your submissives. 

Sure, submissives may expect a degree of humiliation spewing from your mouth, but don't take that to mean you can dish out real abuse. You must still respect their limits and get to know what they find arousing before you go all out. 

Self-Control

The perceived control that a dominant has over a submissive is nothing but myth. In reality, it is the submissive who has most of the power. Like respect, self-control is an absolute must for a dominant. Unfortunately, this can be one of the hardest things to learn, and it's especially hard to put into action during a scene. Dominants should be responsible for their submissives as well as their actions. If you lose your self control, you could lose your submissive. 

Knowledge 

Wanting to be a dominant is one thing. Understanding exactly what comes with such a powerful position is another. You can always add a little kink to your sexual repertoire, but BDSM takes it a little further. Be prepared to take the time to learn the ropes, so to speak, and educate yourself on the tools of the trade. Make sure that you take the time to learn how to safely use toys, bondage equipment, crops and any other equipment. (Check out some kinky bondage toys here.)

Patience

Training your submissive and learning how to be a good dominant takes a great deal of time and patience. You won't become a dominant overnight, so be prepared to sink some time into honing your craft. Start by reading everything you can on the subject, or perhaps consider learning from someone in the BDSM community. Finally, remember that practice makes perfect!

And then, if BDSM is right for you, get out there and whip some tussles!

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