[Valid Atom 1.0] Love & Indulgence Blog: January 2014

Tuesday, 28 January 2014

Why scents turn us on

How important is a sexual partner's smell to you?                                                   
Have you ever dumped someone because of they’re scent? 
And would you go to a pheromone party?

I love this topic. My girlfriend and I were chatting about how I refused to go out on another date with a nice, attractive guy. Yes, attractive! But what it was, was his pheromones were turning me right off. The thought of him touching me turned me off. I thought I must be losing my marbles!
Then with another guy, I stopped enjoying giving him pleasure, yes what your thinking, cause he started to smell different down there which was due to his changing diet. If you didn’t know it, what you eat and drink affects how you smell. People with high fatty diets tend to not only have a strong odour but also taste. Obviously drinking alcohol and smoking can also affect this same factor. 
When it comes to sexual attraction, how important is your lover's smell? No, we're not talking about his cologne, but his natural smell!
When you wake up next to him, is the first thing you do nuzzle into his chest to breath him in, letting his scent intoxicate you and make you aroused?
Or does his smell turn you off, and you may have even dumped a few prospective lovers on the way because you found their scent pungent, or even repulsive?
Using scent when picking a partner is common in the animal kingdom, and it's part of our evolutionary drive too! According to research, the scent of a lover is more important to women than to men because it helps us sniff out genetic compatibility with a potential mate.
Our sense of smell can detect men with different immune systems to ours, to complement ours, to make sure we produce the healthiest offspring.
Not so coincidentally, women's sense of smell is the most sensitive when she's ovulating and is most likely to be pregnant. However, being on the contraceptive pill can throw us off our scents a bit, and it's been reported that our attraction levels to a lover can drop when we come off the pill.
You didn't know that one did you?
The importance of smell in picking a sexual partner has even sparked a range of pheromone parties for singles in the States! Participants bring t-shirts that they've slept in for three nights in a row, and at the party, they try to find a potential mate through sniffing anonymous pieces of clothing. If a person finds the smell agreeable, they are introduced to the owner — and hopefully, it will be instant sexless!

so next time your wondering why your not attracting the kind of attention you want think about
  • what your eating
  • what your drinking
  • and if your smoking

cause this will determine whether your smelling/tasting as yummy as you thought!

Postpartum Passion: Sex after giving Birth

Soon after pregnancy and childbirth, sex may be the furthest thing from your mind; whether or not you come out of the delivery room with an immediate urge to get back to lovemaking, here are some things to consider when it comes to sex after having a baby.

When can I start having sex after pregnancy?

No matter which method you choose to deliver your baby, your body needs time to heal – many caregivers suggest waiting four to six weeks before having sex after pregnancy, while some women feel ready after as little as two weeks. As for when you should resume lovemaking after having given birth, this is up to you and you alone.

Is it going to hurt?
Having sex after giving birth may hurt, but there are ways of avoiding discomfort.

Changes in your hormones from childbirth, especially if you choose to breastfeed, can leave your vagina feeling dry and sore. If this is the case, then start out by taking it slow and making the most of foreplay; think massage, some passionate kissing, maybe an external vibrator – you get the idea. And when it comes time for actual lovemaking, make use of some high-quality lube and experiment with different positions that offer the most comfort.

Will my body change after giving birth?

The physical strain of childbirth will cause a reduction in muscle tone and tightness in your vagina; however, this is only temporary, and if you properly prepared your Kegels prior to pregnancy, you'll have little to worry about. The slackness in these muscles after childbirth can reduce the amount of inter-vaginal friction you would normally have, thereby reducing the pleasurable sensation of lovemaking.

Toning your pelvic floor muscles prior to pregnancy and childbirth will result in a faster recovery from labor’s physiological effects. To get back to your pre-birth pelvic fitness, try exercising your Kegels by flexing the same muscle you would use to stop your flow of urine. Flex this muscle for five seconds, then release and relax it for five seconds. Build your muscle strength with a few repetitions at different intervals of the day before graduating to Kegel exercisers like Luna Beads, which you can use to maintain this important muscle set through motherhood and beyond.

Anything else I should know?

We can’t stress enough (but we will stress it one more time) that everything you choose to do following childbirth – making love, getting back in pre-baby shape, etcetera, etcetera – is all up to you. When you’re ready, you are ready, and nobody knows this better than yourself!


Saturday, 4 January 2014

LELO Tips - Sex on a Plane

Ever feel all been-there, done-that towards sex? The Kama Sutra reads like a Dr. Seuss book. You’ve mastered sex in every room of the house, and you’ve even gotten away with having sex in public and traveling with your toys. You’ve tried it all, right?

Not so fast. Because until you’ve had airplane sex, you’re miles away from becoming a true coital connoisseur.

But is anyone actually having sex in airplane? You might be surprised. According to our recent global sex survey, approximately 3% of women have joined the Mile High Club.

But how did they get away with it? Knowing you’d need a co-pilot on this one, we’ve gone ahead and broken down the why’s, where’s when’s and how’s of airplane sex.

People have sex in planes for the same reason people jump out of planes—adrenaline and bragging rights.

Couple the fear of being caught with the bodily rush of doing something dangerous with a racy, taboo, bucket-list topping adventure and you’ve got major life experience points at stake.

The plane’s rear bathroom. Period. It’s the only place that ensures full(ish) privacy and puts you in control of a door lock.

Reactions to airplane sex (aside from high-fives) will vary from country to country; however, an airplane cabin is a public place, and having sex in public is, as you know, illegal. Worth also keeping in mind is that according to British law, even “sex in a bathroom which the public has access to” can get you jail time. Just ask George Michael.

The only sane way to pull this one off is on a long, overseas flight after dinner when the lights go down, and everyone reclines into sleep. Wait until there is at least a five minute interval where no one has gotten out of their seat and, one-by-one, sneak to the plane’s rear bathroom.

With care.

Position wise, your most comfortable (read; least uncomfortable) bet is standing with her facing the door and him entering from behind.

Regardless of position, however, bring an air sickness bag along with you. If there’s anyone knocks, pretend that one of you is sick, and the other is just being a caring partner.

As you can see, no admission into the Mile High Club is an easy one. Like all great life achievements, one must boldly overcome fear, systematically calculate risk and hope for a little luck. In the end, however, once you’re in the MHC, you’re in for life.