Reasons why every woman should masturbate

Have you ever wondered why we as women should masturbate (especially if you have a partner)?

I always wondered about this as my personal opinion and behaviour was "Why would I do this when he can do it for me?"

WRONG!

As I have said in the past and will say again,

"If your not having sex with you, how can you expect anyone else to want to have sex with you!"

So now its time to look at a bunch of reasons why YOU should masturbate and I will make it as plain and simple as I can.

You become more comfortable with your body

Here is the deal, the more you know your body the better you are at instructing your partner on where to go hunting for that sometimes mysterious spot that ends in an orgasm. Your pussy doesn't come with a manual just like a baby doesn't pop out with an instruction manual so ladies know where all your points of pleasure exist, instruct your partner and enjoy the increased new found bliss that comes with it.

Your future partner will commend you for it

Do you know how hard it is to navigate every different vagina? I bet you didn't. Its not like a guys anatomy. Ours is more complicated ladies with different sensations in different places for all of us. 

Its NOT a one size fits all concept where a partner learns one road map and it suits all women. So learn what makes you tick and talk talk talk about it!

It can drastically improve your sex life

When you know where to navigate and pass that information on, whether that is through subtle hints and tips or just a blunt "show an tell" session, trust me, there is no way your sex life can't instantly improve.

Great tension reliever

Stressed? Can't sleep? Simply...masturbate. Now depending on that stress level may depend on how many times you need to do this to 'take the edge off' however masturbation has always been a great stress relief. I mean think about, don't you occasionally say "Thank God" after you've experienced a Big O? I do!

Definitely helps with the zzzzz

Now I know that its not uncommon that when I have sex at night I can end up wide awake (statistically this is common within women), however when I am stressed out and go for a Big O I find that that release in tension (like I said above) helps me to visit la la land much faster.

Increases your happiness

How would you like to have a natural mood enhancer? Did you know that orgasms release a bunch of chemicals into your system like endorphins, oxytocin and our favourite...dopamine, which are all instant uplift mood enhancers?

So forget the hardcore gym workout and medical drugs and opt for a series of intense orgasms instead to lighten up your day.

There are toys to assist in the exploration process

I could list 20 reasons why you are not having sex or masturbating right now. One of them is you never experience orgasms during sex (and a biggy for 85% of women who don't orgasm with penetration sex). So why not instead of letting your fingers do the walking add a new playmate toy to search, discover and vibrate you into a new level playing field. Toys are also great for those who have cultural, religious or physical disabilities to experience a whole new level of pleasure without technically getting your hands dirty. I have never heard of a woman not being pleasured with the right toy so I dare you to try!

Amazingly relieves menstrual tension

Personally I've never been a big fan of having sex during 'that time of the month' however I have noticed that an orgasm has definitely alleviated the pain I experience at this time. When you orgasm you experience contractions increasing the blood flow and in-turn easing your cramps. Due to the mess factor I suggest finding your favourite toy and combining that with some special shower time to get the job done. Would you prefer a hot water bottle or an orgasm? Think about it.

Keeps your body sexual

So your in a sexual hiatus for some reason. With masturbating you are not only keeping the elasticity and tissues in your private parts working, you are also increasing the blood flow to that area. Sex for women happens in the brain as we all know and by masturbating we are keeping that part of our brain active (imaginary and sensory) so when we get to bringing in a new partner to the scenario its like no time has passed. Here is a tip: the more sex you have the more sex you want!

How would you like multiple orgasms

So some of you have never had one. Why not try multiple. Did you know that when you have your first orgasm its easy to back it up with another one within minutes? Again a lot of women only experience this the first time after a little toy play cause lets face it...our hands get tired!

 

Why not?

Thats right...why not. I know some of us have cultural and religious beliefs that get in the way of having sex before marriage however since when have they stated you can't orgasm before marriage? So let your fingers do the walking and hold clear a vision of your future partners expression when you know what does and doesn't work the first time you get naked between the sheets.

It feels bloody amazing

Did I mention is F'n fantastic! You can keep your walks in the park thank you. I'll take a mind blowing orgasm any day. Your head will feel light, even a little dizzy like, your breath will quicken, your cheeks will go naturally rosie and you'll feel simply amazing! 

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Smaller the average penis? No Problem!

It’s the age old question: Does size really matter? Dr. Emily Morse is here to answer your questions about what to do if your man isn’t so well endowed. It’s not as bad of a situation as you might think.

 

In short, penis size doesn’t have to be a pleasure deal-breaker – You can still have amazing sex with a partner whose penis length is less-than-average. Here are 3 tips to help you navigate this small situation and maximize pleasure for both parties!


1. Amp Up The Foreplay:

This is a tip for all men, regardless of what they’re packing down below, because guess what? The majority of women cannot orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Only about 20-30% of ladies consistently climax from plain old penis-and-vagina sex, meaning that less-endowed dudes have as much of a shot as any at providing their partners with multiple O’s.

This is his chance to make the most of the other tools he has at his disposal: his hands and his mouth. The more aroused you are before intercourse, the more likely you will be to have an orgasm. If he goes so far as to deliver you a couple orgasms before his penis even comes into play, then he will have one satisfied customer no matter what goes down in the main event.

2. Mind Your Positions:

There are two main types of orgasms women experience – the oh-so-elusive G-Spot orgasm and the more common clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is located outside of the vagina, (no penis necessary) and your G-Spot is nestled just a few inches inside, meaning you don’t really need a massive member to hit your sweet spots. It’s all about picking the best positions that makes optimal use of what he’s got.

Skip positions like missionary when you can, which aren’t as flattering for his size. Instead, opt for a woman-on-top position that puts the perfect amount of pressure on your clitoris and allows you to control depth and angle of penetration. Also, employ a grinding motion rather than a bounce in order to rub your pleasure points the right way. Another great option: the always popular doggie style! This position allows for some deep penetration, plus it will enable his penis to rub against your G-Spot.

Also, you can get the prime position for some intense penetration by bringing in some a few pillows to place under your womans hips which puts you at the perfect angle for some effort-free G-Spot stimulation and extra-deep intercourse.

3. Sex Toys for Two:

Bringing a sex toy into your lovemaking is great for multiple reasons. It’s kinky, it feels great and it takes a little pressure off your guy and his equipment. My personal favorite couples’ vibrator is the We-Vibe 4 – It’s a toy you can actually wear during intercourse, and is especially useful if your partner is lacking a little in the girth department.

The toy has two prongs, one of which inserts into your vagina while the other rests on top of your clitoris for two times the pleasure! The We-Vibe helps fill you up, making it a tighter fit for your partner, and provides a vibrating sensation that you both will enjoy. Now you can also enjoy it with the new App from anywhere pretty much on the globe!

In essence, there’s no reason to rule out a partner based on the size of their package. If they learn to master other bedroom skills, and are willing to work with what they’ve got, you can still have a very satisfying and orgasmic sex life. After all, it’s the lover, not the sex (or the sex organs, as the case may be), that give the pleasure.


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Mastering the Art of Skype Sex

Technology; some claim that it drives us apart and alienates us from each other. But if you’re one of the millions who are currently in a long-distance relationship, technology is all you have to bridge the gap between you and your lover. Lucky for these people, VoP software like Skype exists, and allows you to go the distance in spite of the distance.

And while getting sensual over Skype can feel a little intimidating or unnatural at first, remind yourself that every experimental pursuit takes some getting used to. Keeping this in mind, here are LELO’s top 5 Skype sex secrets:

Out with the Insecurity 
The biggest mistake people make while having Skype sex is dampening the mood by letting their insecurity or inexperience show by saying things like, I don’t know what to do or I’m feeling shy. There’s nothing quite as unsexy as a lack of confidence. If you’re feeling bashful or can’t think of anything sexy to say, here’s a hint: say nothing at all, and let your body do the talking.

Play by the Rules

Skype sex is just that—sex. That means that an arousing buildup of foreplay is just as important as it is during physical intercourse. Of course you need to adjust your tantalizing techniques accordingly (more on that later), but don’t make the experience seem unnatural or chore-like by saying things like Should we start now?  Enjoy a glass of wine together, ask about one another’s day, and fan the flames of desire with a simple physical compliment.

Keep it Real

While no substitute for the real thing, you might surprise yourself with how intense a session of Skype sex could be with a little creativity. Introduce a vibrator to your cyber session and supply him with an arousing visual while you experience some more-than-arousing sensations. Be sure to also use your vibrator to experiment with point-of-view positions and angles and communicate with one another to establish a mutual rhythm and pace.   

Know Your Role

Since Skype sex stimulates your imagination, why not take advantage of the opportunity to further explore some role-playing fantasies and fetishes? Before initiating a Skype call you intend to turn frisky, slip on a sexy role play outfit (e.g.—maid or nurse) your man has previously revealed fantasizing about underneath your pajamas or normal daywear. When the timing’s right, slowly reveal your outfit and apologize you can’t be there to pick his jaw up off the floor.

Redefine ‘Homecoming’

Since it’s inevitable that you’ll see one another again, plant a seed of sensual anticipation in his mind that will sprout until your eventual reunion. During Skype sex foreplay, let him know that there’s something else also longing for his arrival. Surprise him by visually introducing him to a remote-controlled couples’ bullet vibrator. Able to be used at a distance of over 100 feet, couples’ bullet vibrators offer an enticing alternative to ‘long-distance’ love-making that leaves nothing to the imagination.

While you may be unable to make a physical connection while your partner is away, Skype has shown us that an internet connection provides a kinkier-than-expected alternative to sex while awaiting the return to a lover’s arms.

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What Women Want Now

Did you know that we’re in the midst of a sexual revolution? Based on data we’ve collected from our Global Survey as well as some external sources of info, we’ve established that now more than ever, women are seizing control in the bedroom like never before, and are not afraid to get what they want!

So now, to celebrate the recent launch of our Dare Me and Indulge Me Pleasure Sets of hand-picked LELO items, we present to you our latest infographic that details what women want in 2012, the year ‘Vanilla’ turned ‘Grey’ – enjoy!

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From Relationship Frustration to Elation: 5 Tips to Revive Your Love Life

If your sex life with your partner isn’t as wildly exciting as it used to be, we have news that might surprise you: you’re completely normal. While we all daydream about those honeymoonish days where sex was on every meal’s dessert menu, it’s only inevitable for even life’s most wondrous pleasures to lose their newness.

Sound a little disheartening? On the contrary. An honest recognition of a dip in coital climate and the willingness to take a proven route of action to sing your way out of the bedroom blues is already enough to get the mercury rising once again.

Having recently surveyed couples who have successfully transformed their sex lives from icy to spicy, we’ve analyzed common, libido boosting findings to bring you the top five ways for even those with the most demanding schedules to start getting busy.

5. UPGRADE YOUR SEXTING PLAN

Our sexually satisfied surveyors reported they felt younger on days when they exchanged dirty text messages with their partner. While you both may be surrounded by people all day—text messages, unlike phone calls, are exclusively private and take mere seconds to write. On top of creating arousal, your touchtone foreplay creates an insider bonding experience similar to that you experienced as a student stealthily passing notes in class.

4. COMMUNICATE WITH NEEDERS AND IMPEDERS

Couples that find time to make great love avoid making something else—excuses. Let’s face it—everyone is busy, and mostly for the same two reasons—loved ones and work. When you finally have time off from work, you tend to be around one of two types of people—needers or impeders. Whether you have children or roommates, try getting what you want by giving them what they want. To get alone time, set up a sleepover for your kids at a friend’s house or promise your roommate a fancy dinner for giving you the apartment for the night.

3. QUICKLY DOES IT

Regardless of how busy you are—there’s absolutely no excuse for not having time to indulge in the sporadic quickie. Unlike our previous tip, no planning or coordination is needed—and would actually deter the steamy spontaneity you’re trying to achieve. And while planning is of no importance, neither is location. A stealthy sneak up in the shower, laundry room, garage or wherever your partner happens to be when you finish reading this is the ideal location for your next quickie.

2. REINVENT MOVIE NIGHT

Put away the romantic comedies that leave you feeling like you’re in a lackluster relationship and substitute them for some erotica. Whether you’re new to frisky films or you’ve got a hard drive full of hardcore, there’s something for every comfort level. Together, search and browse erotic clip sites or order an erotic film from one of your satellite channels. And don’t be afraid to make it interactive. For example, see who can watch the longest without getting aroused (with punishments for the loser of course) or reenact your favorite scene.

In addition to creating anticipatory arousal, you’ll discover both mutual and personal turn-ons and fetishes.

1. REDISCOVER THE JOYS OF TOYS

There are only so many anatomical positions that two bodies are capable of entwining themselves in. It’s truly only a matter of time before even the most experimental couple has exhausted every sexual position and sensation. While humans are built for much more than sex, sex toys are specifically crafted to stimulate your most sensitive pleasure points with stamina unmatched by the human body. And if you thought sex toys were just for one-play, think again: the most sexually successful couples incorporate toys into both foreplay and intercourse. For starters, explore shared fantasies with the LELO Indulge Me Pleasure Set.

As you begin your journey toward revitalizing your sex life, consider these pointers the tip of the spiceberg—open to your own creativity. While some of these leading examples might put you out of your comfort zone, recognize that any journey out of your comfort zone is a journey into self-discovery.

Most importantly, don’t procrastinate. Start tonight, and if you happen to be reading this together right now—well, you know just what to do.

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