Smaller the average penis? No Problem!

It’s the age old question: Does size really matter? Dr. Emily Morse is here to answer your questions about what to do if your man isn’t so well endowed. It’s not as bad of a situation as you might think.

 

In short, penis size doesn’t have to be a pleasure deal-breaker – You can still have amazing sex with a partner whose penis length is less-than-average. Here are 3 tips to help you navigate this small situation and maximize pleasure for both parties!


1. Amp Up The Foreplay:

This is a tip for all men, regardless of what they’re packing down below, because guess what? The majority of women cannot orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Only about 20-30% of ladies consistently climax from plain old penis-and-vagina sex, meaning that less-endowed dudes have as much of a shot as any at providing their partners with multiple O’s.

This is his chance to make the most of the other tools he has at his disposal: his hands and his mouth. The more aroused you are before intercourse, the more likely you will be to have an orgasm. If he goes so far as to deliver you a couple orgasms before his penis even comes into play, then he will have one satisfied customer no matter what goes down in the main event.

2. Mind Your Positions:

There are two main types of orgasms women experience – the oh-so-elusive G-Spot orgasm and the more common clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is located outside of the vagina, (no penis necessary) and your G-Spot is nestled just a few inches inside, meaning you don’t really need a massive member to hit your sweet spots. It’s all about picking the best positions that makes optimal use of what he’s got.

Skip positions like missionary when you can, which aren’t as flattering for his size. Instead, opt for a woman-on-top position that puts the perfect amount of pressure on your clitoris and allows you to control depth and angle of penetration. Also, employ a grinding motion rather than a bounce in order to rub your pleasure points the right way. Another great option: the always popular doggie style! This position allows for some deep penetration, plus it will enable his penis to rub against your G-Spot.

Also, you can get the prime position for some intense penetration by bringing in some a few pillows to place under your womans hips which puts you at the perfect angle for some effort-free G-Spot stimulation and extra-deep intercourse.

3. Sex Toys for Two:

Bringing a sex toy into your lovemaking is great for multiple reasons. It’s kinky, it feels great and it takes a little pressure off your guy and his equipment. My personal favorite couples’ vibrator is the We-Vibe 4 – It’s a toy you can actually wear during intercourse, and is especially useful if your partner is lacking a little in the girth department.

The toy has two prongs, one of which inserts into your vagina while the other rests on top of your clitoris for two times the pleasure! The We-Vibe helps fill you up, making it a tighter fit for your partner, and provides a vibrating sensation that you both will enjoy. Now you can also enjoy it with the new App from anywhere pretty much on the globe!

In essence, there’s no reason to rule out a partner based on the size of their package. If they learn to master other bedroom skills, and are willing to work with what they’ve got, you can still have a very satisfying and orgasmic sex life. After all, it’s the lover, not the sex (or the sex organs, as the case may be), that give the pleasure.


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What Women Want Now

Did you know that we’re in the midst of a sexual revolution? Based on data we’ve collected from our Global Survey as well as some external sources of info, we’ve established that now more than ever, women are seizing control in the bedroom like never before, and are not afraid to get what they want!

So now, to celebrate the recent launch of our Dare Me and Indulge Me Pleasure Sets of hand-picked LELO items, we present to you our latest infographic that details what women want in 2012, the year ‘Vanilla’ turned ‘Grey’ – enjoy!

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Give Good Sext: Our Best Sexting Examples

Isn’t technology great? In 2013, not only can we be completely nude with people thousands of miles away (we’re talking about skype sex, of course), we can also send steamy messages to each other -- even nude pictures -- any time we want.



According to our data, millions of people practice the joy of sext – or more precisely, sending a racy text message from their mobile phones. Just as many people however have yet to try it out for themselves, and this is where we come in, with some wise advice on how your thumbs can do the talking:


SCENARIO #1: YOU HAVEN’T SEEN EACH OTHER IN A WEEK


Think of sexting as your foreplay to foreplay and build as much anticipation and sexual tension as possible.

In three words, tell me what you’re going to do to me when you see me.

You know the saying ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’? Mine’s just getting hornier.

SCENARIO #2: YOUR PARTNER’S HAVING A ROUGH DAY AT WORK


Everyone has “one of those days.” However, knowing your partner is there for not only for emotional, but also sensual support softens the blow of any tough day. Be sexy, yet encouraging. 

Sorry to hear about your tough day at work, but I’ve got another task in mind for tonight.

Please report to my office. I’ve got some disciplinary actions I’d like to go over with you.

SCENARIO #3: YOU’RE AT A BORING FAMILY FUNCTION


Sending stealthy text messages to one another at a gathering creates a playful bond between you. If an event is boring the life out of you, use it as a springboard to do something adventurous later in the evening.

When we get home, I’m going to PUNISH you for putting me through this.

It might look like my eyes are glazing over, but that’s just me thinking about what else we could be doing right now ;)

SCENARIO#4: YOU’RE LOOKING FORWARD TO A HOT DATE

The pre-date sext ensures your partner has you on his mind all day leading up to your date. And upon meeting, the more nonchalant you act toward your seductive sexts, the more your partner will get worked up.

I’d be lying if I said that I’m looking forward to dinner tonight. What I’m really excited about is what we’ll do afterwards…

Now that the day is nearly over, the only thing left on my to-do list is you.

I'm having a hard time deciding what to wear under my clothes tonight.

While brainstorming a saucy sext, remember that nothing is as equal parts sexy and playful as wit. Challenge yourself to think of something more enticing to send than the standard ‘I can’t wait to see you tonight, babe’ and discover the benefit some thumb-tapped typing can bring as you patiently wait to get your hands on your partner.

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6 Unexpected Male Erogenous Zones

So you know everything about your partner, right? We wouldn’t doubt it for a second, but as with most things, it’s good to keep learning. When it comes to your man and what gets him turned on, check out these other erogenous zones that may be going unnoticed, and make sure you’re not missing the point!


His Forehead

Perhaps not the first erogenous zone that springs to mind, but hey that’s the point. The head and scalp are covered with nerve endings that will amplify the lightest touch, so try softly massaging from the hairline to the forehead. This will activate the release of feel-good hormones like dopamine and serotonin, resulting in some relaxation and a better mood that will get him in the mood.

The Back of His Knees

It might be ticklish back there, but this area is very valuable when stimulated during foreplay. Due to the smoothness and hairlessness of the skin back there, it’s extra sensitive to touch, so try a light, circular stroke to turn up the heat before or during the main event.

His Ears

According to sex coach and sexuality educator Amy Levine, his ears are “… often a forgotten area that can soothe or excite.” By either focusing some soft smooches or hot breaths on his lobes, you can expect his excitement to grow, or lightly pinch the area where his lobes meet his face and gently tug them downward. Repeat.

His Feet

“Men love foot massages,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First. What’s more, according to reflexology, the heels are pressure points that are believed to trigger sexual arousal. Our suggestion? After you get his socks off, use massage oil, especially of the scented variety.

His Eyelids

Attention paid to his eyelids is a great way to get him in the lovemaking frame of mind. With his eyes closes, trace your fingertips gently around his eye sockets and over his eyes before laying some light kisses on the area. His closed eyes make it so that you’re in control while he can’t see, changing the power dynamic in a titillating way.

His Prostate

The final frontier for many men when it comes to pleasure, the prostate shouldn’t be overlooked, as it can greatly enhance his enjoyment during foreplay and sex. Prostate massage (with a body-safe and easy-to-clean prostate massager of course) can result in the most intense ever orgasms he’s ever had, and with that sole reason in mind, there’s no reason not to give it a try.

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