Best Beginners Sex Toys for Couples

So you and your partner have both decided to introduce a sex toy to your relationship, realizing how much added enjoyment it can bring to your sensual sessions. The question now is; ‘which one do I choose?’

Because of course different types of sex toys are useful for different types of sex, and require different levels of involvement during lovemaking – but finding the right one for you is no daunting task, because we’re here to help!

Absolute Beginners

If you’re totally new to sex toys in and outside of your relationship, you’re facing a bit of a learning curve – albeit a learning curve of the most pleasurable variety. If you’re just starting out, a small, external sex toy for clitoral stimulation will be very useful in helping you figure out what kind of vibe suits you best, and can be easily incorporated into your foreplay and lovemaking. The new sensor touch technology external vibrator Curve by nalone brings this style of massager into a whole new era!

Intermediate

So you’re already sex toy experienced but looking for new and novel ways to share your pleasure? Get a little more creative by taking your foreplay out of the bedroom (and the house, even) by wearing vibrating pleasure beads as a sexy secret between you and your partner. Not only do they feel fantastic as you move around, but they also impart an effective Kegel workout that tightens and tones your pelvic muscles for even stronger orgasms, making an item like LUNA Beads Noir (below left) your friends with benefits! Or try the new Miu Miu vibrating kegels by Nalone.

Intermediate users can also try turning him into their favorite vibrator to make the sensations of sex even more pleasurable. A wearable couples’ ring like TOR 2 (middle) or the new Lux 4 will not only transfer powerful vibrations down the length of his shaft during intercourse, but the gentle constriction of blood flow from his penis can offer a more pronounced appearance and lengthen his stamina – what’s not to love about that? Meanwhile, a high-powered external vibe like NEA, when placed against the base of his penis, will result in some deeply resonant sensations and can also be used to enhance your foreplay.

Expert

Congratulations, graduate; you’ve tried it all (twice!) and are still looking for more ways to share? Well you’re in luck, because we’ve got just the right vibes for advanced explorers of intimacy.

At this level, you’ll no doubt possess the bravery to share public passions outside the bedroom, so we’ve got a unique proposition for you; how about a vibrating egg you can wear discreetly inside while you partner controls the sensations with a wireless remote? If that sounds attractive to you, then might we suggest taking your foreplay further with Lyla 2 (below left).

When the foreplay ends and the main event begins, advanced users can experience enhanced pleasures with Tiani 2 (below right), a wearable vibrator that supplies additional sensations to the clitoris during lovemaking.

The added bonus of spicing up your lovemaking with Tiani 2 and Lyla 2 is SenseMotion technology, a totally unique way to share pleasure through movement. Simply by moving around the wireless remote, you can create vibration patterns and adjust the strength of the sensations being experienced by your partner.

The new Lelo IDA has the same technology but they have added thrilling rotating motions. 

The makers of the We-Vibe have released the We-Vibe4 to its collection adding a new slick design, new vibes and a smoother silicone. Its time to upgrade now!

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Reaching Climax During Lovemaking

Did you know that our leading supplier LELO’s Wellbeing Experts write a monthly column in Wellness Magazine?

Well, considering that it’s a Sweden-only publication written entirely in Swedish, we don’t blame you if you’ve never heard of it. Every month, reader questions are passed to our experts, who give their advice on sex-related issues that are on the minds of many.

Hi LELO!

My boyfriend comes pretty quickly when we’re having sex, and this leaves me having my orgasms in ways other than penetration. While not a complaint per-se, I’d like to be able to climax while we’re having sex.

Is there anything you can suggest to either help him last longer, or are there any tricks or moves to speed up the process for me?

Marie

Marie,

So it seems your boyfriend is finishing too quickly for you both to enjoy the main event, but what about the pre-game warm up?

Men and women are very different creatures, sexually speaking, and there’s a state of arousal called the ‘orgasmic plateau’, where, in both sexes, orgasm is imminent. It takes women considerably longer to reach this stage than men, so if you’re looking for more mutually-timed orgasms, we suggest a little forward thinking when it comes to foreplay.

You both need to spend some more time focusing on what comes before the actual act of sex itself, getting you ‘revved up’, so to speak, so that you’re as close as you can be to attaining an orgasm during penetrative sex.

Try incorporating a small external vibrator like NEA, ALIA or MIA 2  that can be used easily by you and your partner to get you to your plateau in a fast and fun way.

If your issue is that during lovemaking you get close, so close, right to the edge of climax – only to have him finish before you, try adding some extra ‘oomph’ to your intercourse.

There exist vibrators that you or he are able to wear during sex that will provide you with a bit extra rumble to get you over the edge of that plateau and tumbling into ‘orgasm valley’ (not a real term, but it works).

Try something like TOR 2 – a vibrating ring he can wear around his member that will not only supply external vibrations for you, but the gentle constriction of the ring can result in extra stamina for him – making it a sensual win/win situation!

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5 Orgasm Facts You Need to Know

Ancient Buddhist teachings say that trying to use words to describe life’s most wondrous feelings—peace and enlightenment for example—strips them of their true essence. And while most of us might be a few karma points short of enlightenment, we could all agree that experiencing an orgasm – indeed, one of life’s great pleasures – is truly impossible to put into words.

However, in a quest to experience the inexplicable, there are some questions that only words can answer. Courtesy of LELO, here are the top five most commonly asked questions about orgasms—answered. 

G-Spot. Fact or fiction?

Fact. Named after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg after the “zone of erogenous feeling located along the suburethral surface of the anterior vaginal wall,” the G-Spot is the sensitive, bean-shaped pleasure point typically located about two inches up the front of the vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra.

Due to its tricky location about one centimeter under the vaginal surface, the G-Spot isn't often stimulated through vaginal intercourse alone, but using a G-spot massager has done the trick for millions of women the world over!

Will aging lessen my chances of having an orgasm?

On the contrary. According to research scientists at Indiana University, women actually experience better orgasms with age. As far as the findings go, 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 report having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, while 65 percent of women in their 30s and 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s reported the same.

Based on statistics and surveys, experts explain that built up trust, comfort and intimacy with a long-term partner improves sexual confidence. In addition, older women are more sexually experienced, therefore better knowing their body’s actions, reactions and pleasure points.

Why am I the only one not having an orgasm?

Obviously, you’re far from being alone on this one. One-third of women experience difficulty reaching orgasm during sex, and a whopping 80 percent of women have difficulty reaching orgasm solely through vaginal intercourse. Unless you’ve experienced every sensation on every part of your female anatomy (which of course, you haven’t yet), there’s always a chance your sweet spot has yet to be discovered.

Is there a possibility that it’s all in my head?

Self-esteem and feelings of wellbeing can certainly play a part in your ability to fully enjoy sex and experience an orgasm, but if you’re healthy, it’s time to put your mind at ease. It's also worth remembering that frequent orgasms are good for your health!

When it comes to the question of how to raise your sexual self-esteem, it can be as easy as putting on some mood-lifting tunes or even snacking on some sexually stimulating foods, because studies show that as confidence and an overall positive perception of yourself and your body image goes up, so do the odds of having an orgasm.

What can I do to better my chances of orgasm?

How did we know you’d ask that? First of all, go back and take a look at the way you’ve been having sex in the past—positions, foreplay, etc. Next, remember this: women who frequently experience orgasms are most willing to experiment with different techniques, positions, toys and combinations of all three. Finally, start your experimental journey of getting to know your body, and if you have a partner, appoint them as your guide.

While massagers, especially clitoral massagers like NEA, can help you dramatically increase your odds of orgasm, the most important entity in this equation is your own body.

Concluding our ‘O’ Q&A, it helps to know what elements you’re in control of and which you’re not. As we’ve touched upon, a combination of physiological, biological and psychological factors contribute to the potential and potency of your orgasm. If you happen to be getting the max out of your climax: keep up the good work. If you’re still looking to tip the scales of sensual sensation in your favor, simply start by trying something new. In doing so, you’ll soon look back and realize that all that frustration was worth the wait.

Trust us.