Blended Orgasms – What, How and Why?

Written by Donna Turner

It’s no secret that when you mix two brilliant things, the result is often more than the sum of its parts. This is absolutely true of orgasms: a clitoral orgasm is brilliant; a G-spot orgasm is incredible. But combine the two and you have a recipe for a mind-blowing mixture of complex sensations.

What Is a Blended Orgasm?

While ‘blended orgasm’ might sound like some kind of orgasm smoothie (and I’ll be first in line when someone invents those), it is in fact a broad name for an orgasm that’s brought on by orgasmically stimulating more than one erogenous zone at the same time.

For example, people generally agree that there are two primary types of orgasm for women: the clitoral orgasm and the G-spot orgasm. There are of course many other more subtle and personal types of orgasm (and since everyone is a little different, you could reasonably argue that there are at least as many types of orgasm as there are women on the planet), but let’s not overcomplicate things for now.

The point is that a blended orgasm, which is a combination of clitoral and G-spot pleasure, is at least twice as intense as either of those orgasms by themselves.

How Do I Have a Blended Orgasm?

A blended orgasm is a more “advanced” kind of climax, because it requires you knowing your body (or your partner knowing your body) quite well.

It’s a strange thing to consider that even now, with all our medical and scientific expertise, there is still debate and confusion over female anatomy. Many women, for example, are unaware that their clitoris is not simply that little external bundle of nerves we know and love so much, but in fact has “legs” that extend around the vaginal opening and then inside the vagina (in fact, there was a paper published recently that argued that the clitoris and the G-spot are not distinct organs, but part of the same complex of tissue – in short, that the G-spot was the “back” of the clitoris).

At any rate, the point is that when you start paying attention to the entire clitoris rather than just the external part, while stimulating your G-spot at the same time, the result is likely to be a far more intense orgasm than you might be used to.

What Do I Need For A Blended Orgasm?

You don’t really need anything: if you have patience and some time, then your hands or those of your partner will provide good results.

That said, the most efficient way to reach a blended orgasm is by using toys. The more aroused you are, the better and easier it will be, so make sure you take lots of time building up, spoiling yourself, teasing yourself.

Then, when you start to feel yourself getting close, apply a powerful vibe to your clitoris 

NALONE CURVE and another, 

longer vibe to your G-spot LELO GIGI 2

Use lots of personal moisturizer too.

Find a rhythm, alternating between the pressure you’re applying to your clit and your G-spot, experimenting with slightly different angles and intensities. Try to apply the vibrations all over and around your clitoris, tracing its length inside yourself. Continue to tease and prolong the pleasure – the longer you delay your orgasm, the more intense it will be.

When the blended orgasm finally overwhelms you, you’ll notice the muscles contract all the way along the inside of your vagina; it’s this depth that gives the blended orgasm its intensity.

To Sum Up

Practice makes perfect, so the more you experiment and indulge your body with blended orgasms, the easier and more powerful they’ll become. Exercising your Kegels will also help to strengthen the muscles you use in this kind of orgasm, which in turn will intensify the sensations even more.

So good luck, and most importantly, have fun.

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The Best G-spot Sex Positions

Written by Jessica Hill

The G-spot: whether you think it’s a myth or it’s your preferred point of pleasure, there’s one thing that we can all agree on – the search is the most fun of all! And while your most effective way to reach this sensual treasure trove is with a sex toy designed specifically for G-spot massage, there are some positions you can try with your partner that will hit the spot almost every time!

The Position: Doggy Style

Perhaps the most reliable set up for G-spot stimulation, a rear entry promises just the right friction where it is wanted most. While on all fours, she can maximize the pressure of his penis against her G-spot by locking her elbows and keeping her arms straight while arching her back downward (essentially pushing her bellybutton towards the mattress) as much as is comfortable, while he lifts her hip upward a little and thrusts in a downward motion.

The Good: Doggy style is not only the best G-spot sex position, but the one a majority of women cite as their position for guaranteed orgasms in general.

The Not-so-good: This is also a favorite position among guys because of the increased depths he can reach, meaning he may end up finishing before you get to where you want to be.

The Position: Cowgirl

This position puts her directly in the driver’s seat (or saddle, more appropriately), where she can rock back and forth to apply as much pressure as is needed for her G-spot to be satisfactorily stimulated. Her complete control when in the cowgirl position allows her to dictate not only the pace, tempo and angle of the action, but also the depth – virtually one of the only positions that allows her to do so.

The Good: Aside from the control factor, cowgirl works for most women because it’s a comfortable position to be in, while providing an enticing visual treat for him.

The Not-so-good: In the event that it’s not one of your most-used positions, cowgirl – as well a reverse cowgirl – can be tiring.

The Position: Legs Over Shoulders

When he’s on top with her feet on his chest or at his shoulders, he can either cup her buttocks or the small of her back to keep her pelvis lifted off of the mattress (a few well-placed pillows work wonders here). He can then lean into her thighs for support as well as even deeper penetration, all while hitting just the right spot.

The Good: The angle of her hips in this position guarantees that his penis will be rubbing directly against her frontal vaginal wall, stroking the G-spot with every thrust.

The Not-so-good: the deeper penetration can cause an overly enthusiastic partner to bump her cervix, which is not very sexy at all – proceed with care!

Every expedition needs a set of tools and supplies, and the search for the G-spot is certainly no different. So when you head off on your journey to even more amazing pleasures, bring along the best. LELO’s latest item Ida™ can enhance pleasures for both him and her during lovemaking by combining strong vibrations externally with massaging rotations within, stimulating her clitoris and G-spot at the same time to build to a huge, satisfying blended orgasm. Both of these sensations come together to push him and her over the edge into a whole new kind of sensual experience that must be felt to be believed.

LELO IDA

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His Hot Spots: Erogenous Zones for Men

Written by Donna Turner

When it comes to the hot spots – or erogenous zones, more formally – on a guy, chances are your mind goes directly to the penis. This is completely understandable though, because that’s most likely where his mind goes too.

However, it’s far from the only touchable part on his body, so next time you’re getting touchy-feely, be sure to put some focus on the following spots to drive him extra wild.

His E-spot

Otherwise known as his ears, we’re referring to them as the E-spot because guys don’t have any (insert letter)-spots attributed to them. You’re welcome, guys.

The choice bit of the ear to focus on would be the outer ridge, where the firmness of the cartilage can be nibbled lightly between kisses. Try tracing it with the tip of your nose, followed by the hot, wet sensation of your tongue – throw in some heavy breathing, and he’ll be weak in the knees in no time.

His Cheek-spots

And no, we’re not talking about the ones on his face (either way, they’ve got dimples).

He more than likely puts a lot of focus on your butt cheeks, whether he’s grabbing, stroking or spanking them with an open palm or flogger, so now it’s time to give hissome much-needed attention. Have him lie on his stomach to give you full access to his butt, and try a very light touch to start out. Very lightly tickle the surface of his skin with the very tips of your fingernails or a feather teaser, and then have him relax his glutes (no butt flexing!) as you knead your fists deep into the muscly tissue of his cheeks.

Because it tends to be a rare point of focus during intimacy, the attention you’re putting on his butt will likely be an all-new kind of excitement, and will allow you to gauge his response to the next erogenous zone on our list…

His G-spot

Yep, ladies aren’t the only ones with a magic button that delivers explosive climaxes. A man’s G-spot is his prostate, and when his prostate is massaged just right, he’ll experience the kind of orgasm he never, ever thought possible.

The walnut-sized gland can be massaged with your fingertip or a prostate massager while his penis is being otherwise stimulated. Assuming he’s into it, the most effective path to the prostate is through his anus; with a well-lubricated finger, apply pressure to the front wall of his colon, about 2 inches in, with light swirls and taps with your fingertips. Pro tip: keep your nails short!

The indirect way to give him prostate pleasure is a bit less effective, however if he enjoys it he’ll be much more open to the massage method we mentioned above. When you’re stimulating his penis either orally or during a hand job, position yourself so that you have two fingertips placed over his perineum – the area between his scrotum and anus. As he begins to approach climax, start applying pressure to this spot to indirectly massage his prostate.

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His F-spot

Here’s one you may never have heard of. Imagine, if you will, a penis – now, think of the underside of it. You know that thin band of skin that connects the head with the shaft? That’s called the frenulum, and it’s actually full of nerve connections that are very sensitive to the right kind of touch.

When giving him oral sex, use your hand to stroke his shaft at the same time, but keep your elbow up so that your finger tips are sliding over the underside of his penis. When you move your hands up and down the length of his shaft in tandem with the movements of your mouth, you’ll also be stroking his frenulum and sending him into a sensual frenzy at the same time.

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LELO How-to: Have Multiple Orgasms

It’s true that too much of a good thing can be bad for us, but when it comes to orgasms, we believe that the sky is the limit. And given people within the medical community claim that at least 200 orgasms a year is good for your health, there’s no reason not to at least try having one, two, three or even fourgasms!

Almost every woman is physiologically built for multiple orgasms, and as long as you can reach one per sexual encounter, having another is within your grasp. You don’t need us to tell you that multiplying your orgasms is a handy trick to have mastered for an extra-special sensual situation.

Slow Down & Get Comfortable

One of the secrets to achieving orgasms in general, let alone a number of them in one session, is your comfort. Make sure your immediate surroundings are optimal for orgasms – and if that means simply tidying up, then by all means do it.

Once everything’s in place, take your time to tease yourself to the point that you’ve GOT TO have sex. Build that intensity, getting right to the point of climax and then stop. Do this once or twice to heighten the intensity while preparing your body for multiple pleasures.

Change Your Mind

Think plurally, and enter the intimate encounter with a positive outlook that is open to having more than one orgasm. This healthy mindset will get you tuned in to a mind-body connection that keeps you switched on mentally and sexually after your first climax, and ready for more.

Clear Your Mind

Now that you’re thinking about more than one orgasm – stop thinking about it! Avoid going into your lovemaking session with a goal-oriented mindset; forget about your O and just focus on what feels good – more often than not, the rest will follow.

Vary the Technique, Not the Focus

You know how you take your pleasure, and whether G-spot stimulation or clitoral massage is what gets you off, go with what you know.

After your first orgasm is achieved though, switch up the method, but not the focus area. For instance, if you just climaxed via clitoral stimulation, continue that kind of massage, but change sexual positions or the massage stroke and pressure you just climaxed with.

As with everything sex related, however, communication is key for this tip. 

Sexercise!

Make sure you’re in tip-top shape down there by keeping your Kegels tight and toned, because when you break it down, your orgasm is actually an intense contraction of your pelvic floor muscles.

Keeping them strong will increase blood flow to your nether areas and make repeated muscle contractions possible, so get started on your personal pelvic fitness routine.

We’ll give our final piece of advice in the form of a well-known nursery rhyme about searching for multiple O’s;

‘Whether you have one, a ton or even none,

Trying to multiply your orgasms is fun!’*


*We just made that up.

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5 Orgasm Facts You Need to Know

Ancient Buddhist teachings say that trying to use words to describe life’s most wondrous feelings—peace and enlightenment for example—strips them of their true essence. And while most of us might be a few karma points short of enlightenment, we could all agree that experiencing an orgasm – indeed, one of life’s great pleasures – is truly impossible to put into words.

However, in a quest to experience the inexplicable, there are some questions that only words can answer. Courtesy of LELO, here are the top five most commonly asked questions about orgasms—answered. 

G-Spot. Fact or fiction?

Fact. Named after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg after the “zone of erogenous feeling located along the suburethral surface of the anterior vaginal wall,” the G-Spot is the sensitive, bean-shaped pleasure point typically located about two inches up the front of the vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra.

Due to its tricky location about one centimeter under the vaginal surface, the G-Spot isn't often stimulated through vaginal intercourse alone, but using a G-spot massager has done the trick for millions of women the world over!

Will aging lessen my chances of having an orgasm?

On the contrary. According to research scientists at Indiana University, women actually experience better orgasms with age. As far as the findings go, 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 report having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, while 65 percent of women in their 30s and 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s reported the same.

Based on statistics and surveys, experts explain that built up trust, comfort and intimacy with a long-term partner improves sexual confidence. In addition, older women are more sexually experienced, therefore better knowing their body’s actions, reactions and pleasure points.

Why am I the only one not having an orgasm?

Obviously, you’re far from being alone on this one. One-third of women experience difficulty reaching orgasm during sex, and a whopping 80 percent of women have difficulty reaching orgasm solely through vaginal intercourse. Unless you’ve experienced every sensation on every part of your female anatomy (which of course, you haven’t yet), there’s always a chance your sweet spot has yet to be discovered.

Is there a possibility that it’s all in my head?

Self-esteem and feelings of wellbeing can certainly play a part in your ability to fully enjoy sex and experience an orgasm, but if you’re healthy, it’s time to put your mind at ease. It's also worth remembering that frequent orgasms are good for your health!

When it comes to the question of how to raise your sexual self-esteem, it can be as easy as putting on some mood-lifting tunes or even snacking on some sexually stimulating foods, because studies show that as confidence and an overall positive perception of yourself and your body image goes up, so do the odds of having an orgasm.

What can I do to better my chances of orgasm?

How did we know you’d ask that? First of all, go back and take a look at the way you’ve been having sex in the past—positions, foreplay, etc. Next, remember this: women who frequently experience orgasms are most willing to experiment with different techniques, positions, toys and combinations of all three. Finally, start your experimental journey of getting to know your body, and if you have a partner, appoint them as your guide.

While massagers, especially clitoral massagers like NEA, can help you dramatically increase your odds of orgasm, the most important entity in this equation is your own body.

Concluding our ‘O’ Q&A, it helps to know what elements you’re in control of and which you’re not. As we’ve touched upon, a combination of physiological, biological and psychological factors contribute to the potential and potency of your orgasm. If you happen to be getting the max out of your climax: keep up the good work. If you’re still looking to tip the scales of sensual sensation in your favor, simply start by trying something new. In doing so, you’ll soon look back and realize that all that frustration was worth the wait.

Trust us.