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Wednesday, 21 January 2015

12 Special Qualities A Woman Has That Mean You Should Never Let Her Go

I came across this great article by Paul Hudson in Elite Daily and had to share them with you. Why? As they were written soo simply and soo accurately. So for all you Men out there, have a read as your Miss Right may be standing next to you sharing your fries and you were too blind to see...before you learn't those qualities below. Enjoy the read!



Every once in a while – on very rare occasions – we meet the woman of our dreams. It’s always unexpected and almost never at a convenient point in our lives, but she appears nonetheless and changes your life forever.
The dynamics between man and woman have been gradually changing for the past few decades, but the essence of the partnership basically remains the same.
We are designed by nature in a way that allows two such opposites to join and make a whole. Finding your other half is a journey of its own – usually a grueling one at that.
If you are lucky enough to find that woman, that rare sunflower growing on a barren desert, then do right by yourself and hold on to her as tightly as you can – never, ever let her go.
Not all of us were so wise when we met the loves of our lives… and believe me when I say that we’re regretting it. If she has any combination of these 12 qualities then you should never let her go:

1. She’s smarter than you.

Every man needs a smarter woman to help him get through life in one piece. They say that behind every great man is a greater woman – they aren’t lying. Without woman, man is little more than an ego-trip.
Enter a smarter woman into his life and suddenly that ego has a purpose, a direction, and the wisdom not to screw everything up.

2. She’s beautiful.

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder – as long as you find her to be incredibly beautiful, according to your definition, then she is worth holding on to.
I feel that these days we have those that put too much emphasis on beauty and then those that are rebelling against the concept and giving little to no importance to beauty.
Beauty is something that has been reveled upon since humans had eyes; it’s not something that we should be ashamed of, but rather something we should learn to appreciate properly.

3. She’s kind and nurturing.

Good people are kind people. If she isn’t kind then she isn’t worthy of taking up a part of your life. Being a woman, being nurturing is very important as well. Some people may not want children.
In some relationships the man may be more nurturing than the woman. Nevertheless, women are born with/develop maternal instincts with age. If you wish to one day start a family then you want to be sure you found a woman who wants to be, and is suited to become, a mother.

4. She’s vivacious.

Life gets difficult from time to time. It can get boring and monotonous just as well.
Women weren’t created to entertain men – if anything, it’s probably the other way around – but having a woman who is lively, energetic and hungry for adventure will add a dynamic to our life that will only make you happier.

5. She loves you with all her heart.

This is, by far, the most important quality any woman can have. When a woman loves you she loves you with her entire soul. It’s not the same sort of love that men experience – men always were and always will be more egocentric than women.
Women, on the other hand, have the uncanny ability to devote themselves entirely to the person(s) they love. If you find a woman that truly loves you then you found the greatest gift in the universe.

6. She’s willing to make compromises.

People are stubborn – both male and female alike. We like things the way that we like them and aren’t especially open to making changes we don’t deem necessary to make. However, relationships require making compromises.
It’s just the way things have to work if you want them to work. Finding a woman who will make compromises is only half the battle, however. You’re going to have to make them just as well.

7. She feels like home.

Being in love, deeply in love, is like finding your place in the world, your home, for the first time in your life. It’s knowing that you are exactly where you ought to be and that there is nowhere in the world you’d rather be.
If you look into her eyes and see your soul reflected in them, then you’re home. Don’t ever leave.

8. She is more than happy to tell you when you’re wrong.

Every man – and I mean every man – needs a woman who will call him out on his sh*t. Guys have an uncanny ability to make poor decisions and do stupid things.
Finding a woman who will keep you on track and tell you when you’re wrong can very well make or break your life.

9. She is strong, but feminine.

All people have a slightly different taste for the women they are attracted to – but they are all a combination of strength and femininity. A strong woman is a partner every man needs.
A feminine woman is… well, a woman. The two aren’t opposites. In fact, they are often one and the same – when found in a woman that knows how to hold her ground and be proud of who she is.

10. She’s passionate.

A life filled with passion is a life worth living. But living a life of passion alone is basically impossible. Passion exists between two living things – usually, in some way or another, between two individuals.
The beauty of passion is that it’s rather contagious. It’s the world’s most revered pathogen.

11. She’s driven.

I understand that some men want women to be stay-at-home wives. I also understand that there are plenty of women who want the very same. This sort of woman isn’t for me, but clearly some people are looking for just this.
Nevertheless, you still want a woman that is driven. If she wants to stay at home, cook, clean, and take care of the children, then make sure she’s the kind of woman that wants to be the best stay-at-home mom she could possibly be. Without drive, there is no purpose.

12. She means the world to you.

Sometimes we love a person beyond imagination and we aren’t sure why. To be truthful, you don’t really need a reason. If you love her and can’t imagine your life without her, then don’t allow yourself to lose her.
If she means that much to you, then understand that she means that much to you. Too often people don’t realize what the other person means to them until they lose them. We always think that there will be another chance, that it’s possible that the two of you will one day reconnect.
Maybe. But the opposite is also true. You may have lost her forever. You may suffer for years and years because you let go of the most important thing in your life. Don’t take the risk.

Reasons why every woman should masturbate


Have you ever wondered why we as women should masturbate (especially if you have a partner)?

I always wondered about this as my personal opinion and behaviour was "Why would I do this when he can do it for me?"

WRONG!

As I have said in the past and will say again,

"If your not having sex with you, how can you expect anyone else to want to have sex with you!"


So now its time to look at a bunch of reasons why YOU should masturbate and I will make it as plain and simple as I can.


You become more comfortable with your body
Here is the deal, the more you know your body the better you are at instructing your partner on where to go hunting for that sometimes mysterious spot that ends in an orgasm. Your pussy doesn't come with a manual just like a baby doesn't pop out with an instruction manual so ladies know where all your points of pleasure exist, instruct your partner and enjoy the increased new found bliss that comes with it.

Your future partner will commend you for it
Do you know how hard it is to navigate every different vagina? I bet you didn't. Its not like a guys anatomy. Ours is more complicated ladies with different sensations in different places for all of us. 
Its NOT a one size fits all concept where a partner learns one road map and it suits all women. So learn what makes you tick and talk talk talk about it!

It can drastically improve your sex life
When you know where to navigate and pass that information on, whether that is through subtle hints and tips or just a blunt "show an tell" session, trust me, there is no way your sex life can't instantly improve.

Great tension reliever
Stressed? Can't sleep? Simply...masturbate. Now depending on that stress level may depend on how many times you need to do this to 'take the edge off' however masturbation has always been a great stress relief. I mean think about, don't you occasionally say "Thank God" after you've experienced a Big O? I do!

Definitely helps with the zzzzz
Now I know that its not uncommon that when I have sex at night I can end up wide awake (statistically this is common within women), however when I am stressed out and go for a Big O I find that that release in tension (like I said above) helps me to visit la la land much faster.

Increases your happiness
How would you like to have a natural mood enhancer? Did you know that orgasms release a bunch of chemicals into your system like endorphins, oxytocin and our favourite...dopamine, which are all instant uplift mood enhancers?
So forget the hardcore gym workout and medical drugs and opt for a series of intense orgasms instead to lighten up your day.

There are toys to assist in the exploration process
I could list 20 reasons why you are not having sex or masturbating right now. One of them is you never experience orgasms during sex (and a biggy for 85% of women who don't orgasm with penetration sex). So why not instead of letting your fingers do the walking add a new playmate toy to search, discover and vibrate you into a new level playing field. Toys are also great for those who have cultural, religious or physical disabilities to experience a whole new level of pleasure without technically getting your hands dirty. I have never heard of a woman not being pleasured with the right toy so I dare you to try!

Amazingly relieves menstrual tension
Personally I've never been a big fan of having sex during 'that time of the month' however I have noticed that an orgasm has definitely alleviated the pain I experience at this time. When you orgasm you experience contractions increasing the blood flow and in-turn easing your cramps. Due to the mess factor I suggest finding your favourite toy and combining that with some special shower time to get the job done. Would you prefer a hot water bottle or an orgasm? Think about it.

Keeps your body sexual
So your in a sexual hiatus for some reason. With masturbating you are not only keeping the elasticity and tissues in your private parts working, you are also increasing the blood flow to that area. Sex for women happens in the brain as we all know and by masturbating we are keeping that part of our brain active (imaginary and sensory) so when we get to bringing in a new partner to the scenario its like no time has passed. Here is a tip: the more sex you have the more sex you want!

How would you like multiple orgasms
So some of you have never had one. Why not try multiple. Did you know that when you have your first orgasm its easy to back it up with another one within minutes? Again a lot of women only experience this the first time after a little toy play cause lets face it...our hands get tired!
 
Why not?
Thats right...why not. I know some of us have cultural and religious beliefs that get in the way of having sex before marriage however since when have they stated you can't orgasm before marriage? So let your fingers do the walking and hold clear a vision of your future partners expression when you know what does and doesn't work the first time you get naked between the sheets.

It feels bloody amazing
Did I mention is F'n fantastic! You can keep your walks in the park thank you. I'll take a mind blowing orgasm any day. Your head will feel light, even a little dizzy like, your breath will quicken, your cheeks will go naturally rosie and you'll feel simply amazing! 


Tuesday, 20 January 2015

Ways Men tell you they "Love You" without saying it


Its Plain, Its Simple. 

Take note ladies and don't screw it up!



Frequent Eye contact
That right. When he looks at you, I mean AT YOU, he is saying all he needs to say. Even if its across the room, when your eyes lock you should be able to feel his electricity. He is smitten!


He is happy to do household chores
He wants to help lighten the load. Don't knock it back ladies as this is his masculine energy actually coming out to play. Men are 'doers' and this is his way of expressing how he feels about you and this relationship.

Meaningful gifts
Anyone can walk into a shop and pluck something off the shelf but does that gift have any real thought put into to it? Is it linked to anything you have said in the past that you like, or match your personality. I have had gifts in the past that make me think "do you even know me??"
So when he has given you a gift of meaning it means he has listened and it wasn't just selective this time.

He send you random text message just because
I love these. Completely random in topic and time. It means he has you in the forefront of his mind.

He squeezes your hand when out in public or with mates
This is the ultimate message that if you were alone right now he would probably rip your clothes off and give you the most passionate kiss you've had in weeks. Mmmmm

Stands tall and proud
He does this because of you not for you. you make him want to be a better man and a bigger man in this case (yes, pun intended).

He listens to you intently
Famous male 'selective hearing' does not come into play here. He is listening to you as he is genuinely interested in what you have to say. Trust me...does his eyes looked glazed over? If not he is soo into you.

He smiles after he kisses you
That's what I call the "yum yum bubblegum" smirk. He wants more!! Expect the next kiss to be more passionate then the one pre-smile.

He loves being close...real close to you
Well there is velcro babies and then the all consuming I want to just crawl into your skin closeness. you just can;t seem to get enough of it. The touch, the smell, your soft skin, your scent. It just keeps getting better every second he is close to you. So expect lots of snuggles, cuddling and canoodling!

Spontaneous touching
Just when you least expect it he will pull you close and stroke your cheek or even hold it in the palm of his hand while he haves in your eyes or gives you a gentle kiss. Or maybe its a cheeky pat on the butt. No matter what it is, when it spontaneous its great.

His friends love you
You can tell how someone likes you when you not only know he has told his mates but they have met you and like you. For a bloke this is important as in his mind his spare time will be divided between his mates and his lover which is hopefully you!

He gives you long...lasting deep kisses
These are the ones that when you walk away your head is spinning a little. When you think of him your thinking of that kiss and licking your lips. Long...deep...passionate.

Mirrored behaviour
When couples are connected on the next level they have a tendency to mirror not only each others responses to things and behaviour but also start dressing and physically looking the same. Same tone clothes or fashion styling come sin to play here. If you don't believe me, next time your out and about do some people watching and take note of there clothing. It matches doesn't it!

He finds you hilarious
Its not hard work to make him smile let alone find you refreshingly amusing. Yes you!


Sunday, 21 December 2014

Coming Out Kinky to Your Doctor, in Black and Blue

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The 3 Sexiest Words a Man can Say to a Woman

Now I know your all thinking its

"I love you"...Nope

"You look beautiful"...Nope

"I'm really sorry"...Nope

"Lets go shopping"...Nope

"Lets go away"...Nope

"Please Marry Me"...Nope

Its simply....




"I GOT THIS"


Why?

When a man says this he is in his true masculine energy form. He is protector and makes her feel loved and cherished.

As with even the last one "Please marry me" what the point being married to someone who doesn't make you feel like you are his 'queen!'

Ladies...It doesn't get any better then that.

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Wednesday, 29 October 2014

10 Ways Sleeping without Clothes can Benefit You


1 Decreases Cortisol

Allowing your body to cool at night lowers cortisol levels. Cortisol can cause serious problems ranging from disrupted sleep cycles to serious weight gain.


2 Comfortable in Your Own Skin

We spend a lot of time trying to hide our imperfections. We dress our bodies in the "right" clothes to make us feel more secure about our bodies however, sleeping naked will make you fully aware of your body and therefore, you'll feel more comfortable with it.


3 Growth Hormones for a Healthier Body

Growth hormones are released when you sleep naked. This helps to: promote bone density, lowers your risks of diabetes and heart disease, repairs tissue, builds muscle, promotes a healthier body weight and stimulates the growth of internal organs as well as a healthier immune system.


4 Colder Temps = Youthful Life

Keeping the temperature around 70 degrees while sleeping helps the anti-aging hormones and melatonin to do their job. Sleeping naked will keep you slightly cooler and it could have a positive effect on your life overall.


5 Happier Together

If you sleep naked with your partner, that skin-on-skin contact will release some oxytocin. Oxytocin makes you happier, reduces social anxieties and helps with overall satisfaction.


6 Better Loving

In addition to being happier after this kind of sleep, you'll also be in the mood a lot more. The release of oxytocin will not only increases your sex drive but it could offer up better orgasms!


7 Healthier Lady Business

Ladies, yeast infections are a pretty real risk. Sleeping in constricting clothes increases yeast as it thrives in warmer, moist conditions but by giving some air, your lady parts will stay cool and dry.


8 Increases Reproductive Chances For Men

Gentlemen, sleeping in cooler conditions is good for your reproductive parts too. Keeping your testes cool will keep your sperm healthy and functioning better.


9 Less Laundry

This is a humorous reason to consider sleeping in the nude, but it's a pretty good point. You'll have one less set of clothes to wash each time once PJs are taken out of your regular equation.


10 Summer Sleep

Summertime can be unbearable, especially if you don't have a quality air conditioner. This can result in worse sleep because it's just too dang hot! Sleeping naked should help solve that, afterall, it's the one time of the day where you can be nude and no one can stop you.











Your first Time: A Sexual guide for Boys

This is an important topic and guide for young men. Unbeknown to parents, your sons first sexual contact is via porn. There are two issues here in that case:
1. This gives a skewed perception to young men that this is what not only turns women on but that this is HOW you have sex (as young men don't understand porn is all about the camera angles and fake orgasms by women) and
2. Excessive porn viewing combined with masturbation causes ED (erectile dysfunction) which is becoming an silent epidemic today.

So please share this article written by Jamie Utt.  If your unsure of how to broach the subject and educate your young son just forward him the article and educate him today before he grows up!


Let’s face it: Most sexuality education is terrible.
If you’ve received a formal sex education, it likely went a little like this:
Sex is a special covenant between a man and a woman. Here’s a little information about the biology of sexual intercourse between a man and a woman. And here are a bunch of horrifying pictures of STI’s that will scare you into remaining abstinent until marriage.”
And we think that it’s time we change that.
Sex ed has to change.
Because if we don’t do a better job of teaching healthy sexuality, we leave it up to pornography, television, music, and movies to do our job – and none of those are accurate, comprehensive sources of sexuality education.
It’s time we teach our young people about more than just biology, STI’s, and abstinence.
It’s time we teach about how to have amazing, fulfilling, consensual, and healthy sex.
Cynthia Kane already wrote a fantastic guide for having great sex on the first time, but since some of the most effective sexual education is split up by gender, the brilliant Melissa A. Fabello and I are here with a two-part article to amplify Cynthia’s message.
And since I identify as a man, I will start things off by talking to the boys and men out there.
That said, let me be clear that I am a cisgender man, and as such, many of these lessons come from a cisgender perspective and should be treated as limited in that way.
So what are some steps to take before diving into sex for the first time? What are some important facts to know? And why are they important?
Let’s take a look.

1. Get to Know Your Body

Amazing sex starts with you knowing a bit about your body and what you want and need from your partner. So before you head into the bedroom with another person, you need to spend some time by yourself.
Yup. I’m telling you to masturbate.
But I don’t mean the “jerk off quickly in the bathroom before someone catches me” kind of masturbation.
I mean taking your time, exploring your whole body, figuring out what does (and doesn’t!) feel good.
How do you like to be touched, where do you like to be touched, and in what ways do you like to be touched?
More and more, young women are being told to familiarize themselves with their bodies (which they should!), but young men aren’t being told the same thing.
The idea that a man would take the time to light some candles, draw a bath, and explore his body for maximum masturbatory pleasure is considered laughable. Let’s change that!
Too often, we just treat male pleasure and orgasm as being easy. Having fulfilling sex, though, means having a much more comprehensive knowledge about your own pleasure.
Did you know that one of the most powerful orgasms a man can have has virtually nothing to do with his penis?
It’s called a prostate orgasm, and most men never experience this tremendous joy because of the taboo around anal play being “gay” and thus “terrible and disgusting and eww.”
Whether it’s a prostate orgasm or neck kissing, you won’t know what works best for you, though, if you never take the time to explore.

2. Interrogate Your Media Consumption and Expectations

Long before anyone tried to talk to me about sex, bodies, or relationships, I learned about those things from porn.
I was introduced to pornography at a very young age, and before that, I got plenty of confusing and misleading messages from TV or movies.
Now, both men and women get taught misinformation (which can sometimes be damaging) from media in general and porn specifically, but dudes, it’s time we unpack some of what we’re taught.
First, you don’t have to be in charge.
Rarely in any media do we see women who are taking the lead in sex. Nowhere is this more evident than in porn, where women are almost never seen taking charge – except in fetish porn where women are explicitly dominant.
Instead, sex should be a conversation (more on that later) where both people are communicating and asserting their needs and desires.
Second, your partner may not want your semen all over them.
There are some people who are totally down with facials (or semen anywhere for that matter) and find them hot, but porn makes it seem like every person wants your ejaculate all over them at all times. And it’s not true.
In fact, a lot of people find things like facials to be degrading expressions of dominance and control.
Thus, before you go shooting your spunk, you may want to chat with your partner about things like condom use (see below) and where that sticky stuff is (and isn’t) welcome.
Third, no one is owed anything in sex.
One of the most powerful media messages that men receive is that we are owed pleasure and gratification and access to others’ bodies.
If all we knew of sex came from porn or mainstream media, we’d assume that men must orgasm for sex to be sex and that all bodies exist for the sole purpose of pleasing men.
Not only is that selfish (and boring), but it’s downright misogynistic.
Instead, think of your pleasure as wrapped up in the consent and pleasure of your partner!
Sex will be more fun and fulfilling that way.
Finally, sex is about more than orgasms and penetration.
If there’s any clear message from media, it’s that sex is about the dude putting his penis in any given orifice, and when he reaches orgasm, sex is over.
On the contrary, though, sex is about connecting with another human being on a number of levels, and if you’re only focused on either getting or giving an orgasm, you’re going to miss out on big parts of that connection.
Be present. Realize that sometimes the best pleasure comes before or after orgasm and that there are countless ways to experience sexual pleasure.
Want some more information about pornography and media literacy? Check out these awesome resources:

3. Protection and Prevention of STI’s

Now, I know that I started this piece by criticizing the fear-based education that focuses on STI’s.
But that doesn’t mean that some attention to STI’s isn’t important. They are a reality. At best, they are an uncomfortable inconvenience, and at worst, they are deadly.
As men, something you’re probably used to hearing about are condoms, but they are only a small part of the prevention and protection picture.
Long before ever putting on a condom, prevention begins in talking with your partner about your health status.
One great way to do that is to say, “Hey, I would love to get tested before we are sexually active. Would you like to go get tested together?”
Getting tested does not mean that you’re dirty or that you have reason to believe you have an STI!
Quite the opposite.
It’s preventative medicine.
Just like you get a physical once a year or a dental checkup, getting STI tested is important if you’ve been sexually active.
From there, it’s important to think about protection.
You’ve probably heard, “Use a condom.”
But you’ve probably never heard, “Make sure to measure your penis so you find the best fit!”
Fit is vital to ensure pleasure and safety, so make sure you know which size to buy. Also, remember that there are about a million types of condoms. So experiment a little!
Know, though, that using a condom when having intercourse is not the only type of protection that you should be using.
Very few people use protection during oral sex, but there is a risk of STI contraction from oral. So make sure you pick up some flavored condoms and dental dams (not sure what a dental dam is? Look here!).
Finally, if you’re having straight intercourse, it’s important to talk about pregnancy prevention.
If your partner wants to use birth control, consider splitting the cost (since it’s possible for birth control to get expensive), and make sure that you’re consistent.

4. Sexual Communication Is Key

More than any other factor, good sex comes from one thing: communication.
And that’s a problem for men because we’re socialized to believe that we’re bad at communication and that “talking” through things that are important to us is feminine.
But if you want amazing sex, you need to start talking with your partner. And that conversation likely needs to start before you’ve even touched one another.
Ideally, your first time is happening in the context of a healthy, communicative relationship. So sit down with your partner and talk about what you both want from your sexual relationship.
Are you on the same page with “taking the next step” sexually, whatever that step may be?
Perhaps you should both fill out a “Yes, No, Maybe Chart” and discuss your responses with each other.
I promise it will only be awkward if you decide ahead of time that it’s going to be awkward.
On the contrary, if you take the time to talk through things before taking the next step, your sex will be much more amazing for the both of you.
But don’t think the communication should end there.

5. Expectations for the Big Moment

I don’t know about you, but when I was thinking about my first time having sex, one thing I wasn’t thinking a lot about was how I would communicate with my partner.
But the single most important aspect of sex is also one of the least talked about: consent.
When many of us hear the term, we think of some stiff, cardboard interaction with another person: “May I put my hand on your arm now, please?” “Yes you may!” “Now may I lean closer?” Yes you may!”
But I am here to tell you: active, enthusiastic consent has the power to be the single sexiest part of your sexual experiences if you do it right.
To do that, first you need to get rid of the idea that consent is a one-time, blanket permission or that silence or non-affirmation is consent. Thinking of consent this way is not only a huge turnoff, but it is downright dangerous, and it’s time that we, as dudes, change this perception.
Instead, think of consent as a constant conversation in words, expressions, games, sensuality, looks, bodies. Need some ideas on what that means? Check out “Want the Best Sex of Your Life? Just Ask!
Plain and simple: Sex that is built upon the constant communication of enthusiastic consent is guaranteed to be the most incredible sex that two (or more!) human beings are capable of having.
Aside from a better knowledge of consent, here are a few other things I wish I had been told about the deed before the first time I had sex:
It’s okay to ask for things that you want/need! In fact, unless your partner is a mind reader, if you are going to have amazing sex, you need to! But you also have to be willing to listen when your partner does the same.
If you reach orgasm really quickly, don’t worry! That doesn’t mean that sex has to be over! Explore some other ways to give and receive pleasure. There is no prescribed time in which you’re supposed to ejaculate.
Having a hard time orgasming? That’s also okay! Talk to your partner about what each of you need to feel more pleasure next time, and take some time exploring each other’s bodies! Oh, and “blue balls” is very rare, and it should not be used as an excuse to pressure someone into giving you an orgasm. “I really want to cum” and “I am experiencing a rare medical condition characterized by sharp, acute pain in my testicles” are not the same thing.
Great sex comes from listening. If something feels amazing and they arch toward you, remember that. If something’s not doing it for them, maybe they won’t tell you for fear of embarrassing you or themselves, but their body likely will. Then you can ask! “I noticed you started breathing REALLY heavily when I did such-and-such. Should I do more of that?” or “I noticed you weren’t really into blah-blah-blah. Was I reading you right?”

Men Need to Talk to Men and Boys

It’s time that men start having more accountable conversations with men and boys about healthy, positive sexuality.
It is our responsibility to raise a generation of men who are committed to ending sexual violence, and a great place for us to start is by building the healthiest sexual relationships that we can.
So if you have suggestions about what else men and boys need to hear to have amazing first time sex, share them in the comment.
Are you a dad or a big brother or a mentor? Give this article to the young men in your life and chat with them about it!