Blended Orgasms – What, How and Why?

Written by Donna Turner

It’s no secret that when you mix two brilliant things, the result is often more than the sum of its parts. This is absolutely true of orgasms: a clitoral orgasm is brilliant; a G-spot orgasm is incredible. But combine the two and you have a recipe for a mind-blowing mixture of complex sensations.

What Is a Blended Orgasm?

While ‘blended orgasm’ might sound like some kind of orgasm smoothie (and I’ll be first in line when someone invents those), it is in fact a broad name for an orgasm that’s brought on by orgasmically stimulating more than one erogenous zone at the same time.

For example, people generally agree that there are two primary types of orgasm for women: the clitoral orgasm and the G-spot orgasm. There are of course many other more subtle and personal types of orgasm (and since everyone is a little different, you could reasonably argue that there are at least as many types of orgasm as there are women on the planet), but let’s not overcomplicate things for now.

The point is that a blended orgasm, which is a combination of clitoral and G-spot pleasure, is at least twice as intense as either of those orgasms by themselves.

How Do I Have a Blended Orgasm?

A blended orgasm is a more “advanced” kind of climax, because it requires you knowing your body (or your partner knowing your body) quite well.

It’s a strange thing to consider that even now, with all our medical and scientific expertise, there is still debate and confusion over female anatomy. Many women, for example, are unaware that their clitoris is not simply that little external bundle of nerves we know and love so much, but in fact has “legs” that extend around the vaginal opening and then inside the vagina (in fact, there was a paper published recently that argued that the clitoris and the G-spot are not distinct organs, but part of the same complex of tissue – in short, that the G-spot was the “back” of the clitoris).

At any rate, the point is that when you start paying attention to the entire clitoris rather than just the external part, while stimulating your G-spot at the same time, the result is likely to be a far more intense orgasm than you might be used to.

What Do I Need For A Blended Orgasm?

You don’t really need anything: if you have patience and some time, then your hands or those of your partner will provide good results.

That said, the most efficient way to reach a blended orgasm is by using toys. The more aroused you are, the better and easier it will be, so make sure you take lots of time building up, spoiling yourself, teasing yourself.

Then, when you start to feel yourself getting close, apply a powerful vibe to your clitoris 

NALONE CURVE and another, 

longer vibe to your G-spot LELO GIGI 2

Use lots of personal moisturizer too.

Find a rhythm, alternating between the pressure you’re applying to your clit and your G-spot, experimenting with slightly different angles and intensities. Try to apply the vibrations all over and around your clitoris, tracing its length inside yourself. Continue to tease and prolong the pleasure – the longer you delay your orgasm, the more intense it will be.

When the blended orgasm finally overwhelms you, you’ll notice the muscles contract all the way along the inside of your vagina; it’s this depth that gives the blended orgasm its intensity.

To Sum Up

Practice makes perfect, so the more you experiment and indulge your body with blended orgasms, the easier and more powerful they’ll become. Exercising your Kegels will also help to strengthen the muscles you use in this kind of orgasm, which in turn will intensify the sensations even more.

So good luck, and most importantly, have fun.

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The Best G-spot Sex Positions

Written by Jessica Hill

The G-spot: whether you think it’s a myth or it’s your preferred point of pleasure, there’s one thing that we can all agree on – the search is the most fun of all! And while your most effective way to reach this sensual treasure trove is with a sex toy designed specifically for G-spot massage, there are some positions you can try with your partner that will hit the spot almost every time!

The Position: Doggy Style

Perhaps the most reliable set up for G-spot stimulation, a rear entry promises just the right friction where it is wanted most. While on all fours, she can maximize the pressure of his penis against her G-spot by locking her elbows and keeping her arms straight while arching her back downward (essentially pushing her bellybutton towards the mattress) as much as is comfortable, while he lifts her hip upward a little and thrusts in a downward motion.

The Good: Doggy style is not only the best G-spot sex position, but the one a majority of women cite as their position for guaranteed orgasms in general.

The Not-so-good: This is also a favorite position among guys because of the increased depths he can reach, meaning he may end up finishing before you get to where you want to be.

The Position: Cowgirl

This position puts her directly in the driver’s seat (or saddle, more appropriately), where she can rock back and forth to apply as much pressure as is needed for her G-spot to be satisfactorily stimulated. Her complete control when in the cowgirl position allows her to dictate not only the pace, tempo and angle of the action, but also the depth – virtually one of the only positions that allows her to do so.

The Good: Aside from the control factor, cowgirl works for most women because it’s a comfortable position to be in, while providing an enticing visual treat for him.

The Not-so-good: In the event that it’s not one of your most-used positions, cowgirl – as well a reverse cowgirl – can be tiring.

The Position: Legs Over Shoulders

When he’s on top with her feet on his chest or at his shoulders, he can either cup her buttocks or the small of her back to keep her pelvis lifted off of the mattress (a few well-placed pillows work wonders here). He can then lean into her thighs for support as well as even deeper penetration, all while hitting just the right spot.

The Good: The angle of her hips in this position guarantees that his penis will be rubbing directly against her frontal vaginal wall, stroking the G-spot with every thrust.

The Not-so-good: the deeper penetration can cause an overly enthusiastic partner to bump her cervix, which is not very sexy at all – proceed with care!

Every expedition needs a set of tools and supplies, and the search for the G-spot is certainly no different. So when you head off on your journey to even more amazing pleasures, bring along the best. LELO’s latest item Ida™ can enhance pleasures for both him and her during lovemaking by combining strong vibrations externally with massaging rotations within, stimulating her clitoris and G-spot at the same time to build to a huge, satisfying blended orgasm. Both of these sensations come together to push him and her over the edge into a whole new kind of sensual experience that must be felt to be believed.

LELO IDA

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His Hot Spots: Erogenous Zones for Men

Written by Donna Turner

When it comes to the hot spots – or erogenous zones, more formally – on a guy, chances are your mind goes directly to the penis. This is completely understandable though, because that’s most likely where his mind goes too.

However, it’s far from the only touchable part on his body, so next time you’re getting touchy-feely, be sure to put some focus on the following spots to drive him extra wild.

His E-spot

Otherwise known as his ears, we’re referring to them as the E-spot because guys don’t have any (insert letter)-spots attributed to them. You’re welcome, guys.

The choice bit of the ear to focus on would be the outer ridge, where the firmness of the cartilage can be nibbled lightly between kisses. Try tracing it with the tip of your nose, followed by the hot, wet sensation of your tongue – throw in some heavy breathing, and he’ll be weak in the knees in no time.

His Cheek-spots

And no, we’re not talking about the ones on his face (either way, they’ve got dimples).

He more than likely puts a lot of focus on your butt cheeks, whether he’s grabbing, stroking or spanking them with an open palm or flogger, so now it’s time to give hissome much-needed attention. Have him lie on his stomach to give you full access to his butt, and try a very light touch to start out. Very lightly tickle the surface of his skin with the very tips of your fingernails or a feather teaser, and then have him relax his glutes (no butt flexing!) as you knead your fists deep into the muscly tissue of his cheeks.

Because it tends to be a rare point of focus during intimacy, the attention you’re putting on his butt will likely be an all-new kind of excitement, and will allow you to gauge his response to the next erogenous zone on our list…

His G-spot

Yep, ladies aren’t the only ones with a magic button that delivers explosive climaxes. A man’s G-spot is his prostate, and when his prostate is massaged just right, he’ll experience the kind of orgasm he never, ever thought possible.

The walnut-sized gland can be massaged with your fingertip or a prostate massager while his penis is being otherwise stimulated. Assuming he’s into it, the most effective path to the prostate is through his anus; with a well-lubricated finger, apply pressure to the front wall of his colon, about 2 inches in, with light swirls and taps with your fingertips. Pro tip: keep your nails short!

The indirect way to give him prostate pleasure is a bit less effective, however if he enjoys it he’ll be much more open to the massage method we mentioned above. When you’re stimulating his penis either orally or during a hand job, position yourself so that you have two fingertips placed over his perineum – the area between his scrotum and anus. As he begins to approach climax, start applying pressure to this spot to indirectly massage his prostate.

BILLY

LUX RANGE

ANAL FANTASY PROSTATE MASSAGER

His F-spot

Here’s one you may never have heard of. Imagine, if you will, a penis – now, think of the underside of it. You know that thin band of skin that connects the head with the shaft? That’s called the frenulum, and it’s actually full of nerve connections that are very sensitive to the right kind of touch.

When giving him oral sex, use your hand to stroke his shaft at the same time, but keep your elbow up so that your finger tips are sliding over the underside of his penis. When you move your hands up and down the length of his shaft in tandem with the movements of your mouth, you’ll also be stroking his frenulum and sending him into a sensual frenzy at the same time.

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50 Shades of Grey Trailer Review

Written by Jessica Hill

Well, this isn’t going to end well for anyone.

It’s been a couple of years in development hell but now, at long last, we can dust off our old 50 Shades puns and start all over again. Have you heard that Christian Grey was fired from his company after a salary scandal? There were 50 Grades of Pay. Apparently he went bankrupt and had to work on a farm to pay off his debts. He had to harvest 50 Bales Of Hay. After that, he had to be very frugal when it came to buying new bondage equipment. He had to be Thrifty Shades Of Grey.

But that’s not what we’re here for. We’re here because the first global trailer has been released, and we owe it to you and ourselves to take a closer look and make a few guesses about the final 50 Shades of Grey movie, when it’s released in 2015. On Valentine’s Day. Yeah, perfect first date material.

Here’s the trailer, just in case you’ve been trapped in an elevator for the past week and missed it. In fact, if you have been trapped in an elevator for a week, you’ll feel right at home with this trailer. Elevators feature quite heavily.

And there we have it. 2 minutes and 20 seconds of women looking nervous in elevators and men looking absently out of windows. And a dinner scene with the in-laws. Raunchy stuff.

Let’s recap what we’ve seen.

We meet Ana Steele straight off the bat, looking like the unlikely offspring of Anne Hathaway in The Devil Wears Prada and Zooey Deschanel in everything Zooey Deschanel has ever been in.

Anastasia has a couple of questions for Mr. Grey, so she wanders into his reception – which is apparently staffed entirely by Aryan Fembots from the future.

And soon, Ana is led meekly into Grey’s office. He stands, looking intensely out of the window. This is another recurring theme with Mr. Grey: Ana has her elevators, Christian has his windows.

Then the trailer teases us with shot after shot of out of focus Grey’s…

And then… BOOM. Moneyshot. You have to hand it to them, after auditioning just about every man in Hollywood, the final Christian Grey (Jamie Dornan) is pretty on point – maybe because there’s just a hint of Colin Firth about him.

Obviously, Ana is thunderstruck straight away, as you can tell from this shot of her getting into an elevator.

And before you know it, Cristian is trying to suck Ana’s eyes out. In an elevator.

And the rest is history. There’s some other stuff in the trailer, for example this shot of Christian piloting a glider and very literally turning Ana’s world upside down, which is a bit heavy-handed for a trailer.

So what can we learn about the finished film from this trailer? Well, there’s good news, and there’s bad news. There’s not an inner goddess, an “oh my” or a “laters babe” anywhere in sight. Hurrah, that’s good news. And on the whole it seems like the filmmakers have done justice to the source material without just blindly following it. 

The shattered sphere sculpture, the moody, listing ships, the chair deliberately chosen to make Anastasia look small, it’s all very clever scenery and it shows that, whatever the final movie is like, it’s going to be close in tone to the book.

Very promising. Also promising is the little glimpses we get of the Red Room and of the sex scenes.

Crops

SILK ROPES

BONDAGE KIT

On first impressions, then, the sex scenes look pretty good – as long as you consider the sex scenes in the book good, of course. They appear pretty accurate, relatively explicit, and created by people who know what they’re doing. In fact, we know that the filmmakers were experts, because they chose the LELO Intima silk blindfold. Christian Grey really DOES have class.

In Conclusion…

Whether you love the 50 Shades series or hate it, you can’t deny that one of the major outcomes was that it opened up conversations all over the world about sex. Every generation has its sexually-defining piece of media, 50 Shades is ours and whether it’s done more harm than good is still up for debate. But that’s part of the point: the fact that it’s generating debate at all is a progressive sign.

I guess we’ll have to reserve judgement for now. In the meantime…

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How To Give The Perfect Blowjob

Written by Jessica Hall

Ok, we admit it. Calling this article ‘how to give the perfect blowjob’ is a little unrealistic. The truth is, oral sex is performed and enjoyed differently by everyone. Some people love them, some hate them. As with all sexual matters, it’s good communication that’s key. A more accurate title would be ‘how to give a perfectly good blowjob if you’re happy to give one and your partner enjoys receiving them’, but that’s a bit cumbersome.

Blowjob. It’s an odd and misleading phrase. You don’t blow, you suck, and if it’s work you enjoy, it’s hardly a job. But what really sets it apart in the murky and fascinating world of sexual slang is that it’s relatively new, probably coined in the late 50s. When the jet engine was invented, fighter pilots would often refer to their planes as blow jobswithout so much as a smirk. (But there’s no evidence the phrase came from the Top Gun community. Just like the history of the word dildo, no one’s quite sure whereblowjob came from.)

So let’s be clear: there’s no ‘wrong way’ or ‘right way’ to perform oral sex on a man. But there are plenty of ‘ways’, and we’re going to talk about a few. In no particular order…

5. The One Way Street

The ‘One Way Street’ makes him a passenger, and there’s a good chance he’ll love it. We give it this name because you’re in control; he lies back, closes his eyes, maybe swears at the ceiling, and trusts you to spoil him. This is an opportunity for you to explore and try different techniques: one hand, two hands, no hands, speed up, slow down, stop, start, build up and tease. Listen to his reactions and play to them.

Blindfold him to intensify the sensations, so he’s concentrating only on what you’re doing. Restrain his hands for added spice.

4. The Surrender

In the ‘Surrender’, the roles are reversed: he’s in control of his own pleasure. This is certainly not a technique for everyone, and it takes some self-control on his part and some trust on yours, but it involves allowing him to take your hair, move your head, perhaps kneeling in front of him, and letting him find his own way to orgasm. He’s in control.

And since the roles are reversed from the previous style, perhaps this time you wear the blindfold.

3. The Virgin

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how experienced you are or how much you enjoy performing oral sex, every now and then he’ll enjoy it if you pretend you don’t quite know what you’re doing, like it’s your first time doing it. This takes a light touch, some gentleness and some hesitancy, mixed with some eagerness.

Look him in the eyes while you gently lick him. Tell him how it tastes… flatteringly.

2. The Pornstar

The complete opposite of the ‘Virgin’, the ‘Pornstar’ is all about confidence. This is a blowjob without inhibition, without any powerplay: you give how you want to give and he receives how he wants to receive. You’re both in control, and it can be messy and noisy.

Of course, not everyone can do what pornstars do, and not everyone was born without a gag reflex. But it can be fun to try every now and then.

1. The Big Tease

The Tease puts you right back in the driving seat, but this time, as opposed to the One Way Street, the object is not to allow him to climax, but make him get really close and then drop him back down again. The longer you continue, the more intense his orgasm will be.

Some Things to Try

Mouth-Watering Pleasure

Take some whipped cream or ice cream, some champagne or some yoghurt and put it in your mouth before going down on him. Use your tongue to move it around him for a sensation he won’t be able to bear for long. You can read some more suggestions for food in foreplay here.

Teeth

Teeth should be used sparingly during oral sex. But every so often, lightly dragging your teeth along the surface of his skin will shake up the sensations, like hitting a reset button so you can start the pleasure all over again.

The Vibe

Men respond to vibrations just as much as women, and by holding a simple but powerful vibrator against him while you perform oral sex will drive him crazy. Tease his perineum and his testicles while you go down, and occasionally hold it against his penis too.

Better yet try the NEW Toynary Oral Vibrator. For those women that aren't a fan of oral this will make your job much more enjoyable and faster!

Most Importantly…

…forget everything you just read and do it your own way. Sure there are little tips and tricks you can pick up and try, but there’s just no substitute for experimentation and good communication.

My personal tip, the more YOU enjoy it the more HE enjoys it!

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Less Slap, More Tickle: A Whip & Teaser Comparison

Sex is all about sensational sensations, intricate intimacy, emotional motion and, most importantly, mind-blowing pleasure. At LELO, we’re known for a very specific kind of pleasure: the orgasmically vibrating kind. But we offer so much more than that, and today we’re going to look at and compare two of our products you might not have considered before: the LELO Sensua Whip and the  Feather Teaser.

The fascinating thing about the Sensua Whip and the feather teaser is that they’re simultaneously very similar, and yet completely different. Used together, they become more than the sum of their sensual parts.

The LELO Sensua Whip

About The Whip

With a cool, transparent handle and a 10 inch fall in the cow suede tails, the Sensua whip brings together an intense blend of sensations. It’s light and well-balanced in the hand, providing enough leverage and control to offer a warm sting but not a heavy thud. The suede is leather on one side and coarse on the other for an impact that soothes and stings at the same time. It’s a complex sensation, which is why it’s so popular.

What’s The Attraction?

The attraction is the beautiful material, the feel against the skin, and the intimacy of indulging in kinkier, more daring avenues of pleasure between trusting couples. This little flogger is every bit as much a pleasure product as everything else we offer.

How Does It Feel?

How it feels depends on how it’s used. Blindfolding your partner and tracing the tips of this flogger over their neck, their sides, their knees and their toes generates a feeling of massaging warmth. But restrain your partner (we have a very sexy light-bondage kit for exactly this purpose) and use more energy, and the whip becomes a valuable tool for dominance and submission. Don’t be fooled: as a flogger, the Sensua is relatively small, but it punches above its weight thanks to the heavy suede. It will leave marks, but it won’t break the skin. It’s the perfect balance for heavier BDSM players.

About The Teaser

Ostensibly similar in form to the whip, the Teaser is entirely different in function. The teaser leaves up to its name: it teases, making it an exceptional companion during exploratory tantric foreplay. It’s smaller than the whip, and its long, fluffy down feathers are incredibly soft. No sting or thud here: the teaser is designed to be drawn slowly over skin, over the curve of the elbow and the back of the knee for a long, indulgent sensation.

What’s The Attraction?

The attraction is the time you can spend exploring each other’s bodies. The feather teaser is for couples who want to spoil each other. Such a luxurious pleasure product is firmly in the domain of those who know how to tease before they please – the perfect way to get the pulse racing in excited anticipation.

How Does It Feel?

The feeling of being stroked with the teaser is one of almost unbearable torment: you want to be touched, you want it now, but the delicate lightness of the feathers on your skin forbids it. Add restraints and a blindfold and watch your partner writhe and moan under your touch. Mix up the sensations with a few sharp spanks, or even with the Sensua whip.

Whether you crave the flick of the feather or the lick of the leather, these two sophisticated pleasure products offer the best of both worlds. They can be kinky, or sensual, or neither, or both: it’s up to you to imagine how to use them.

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Honey, I Have Herpes

By Anna Lekas Miller, July 9, 2014

Takeaway: Many people with herpes live full, normal lives. That includes dating, having healthy long-term relationships and, yes, having sex.

I really like you, but I have to tell you something … I have herpes.

Astoundingly, 1 million people in the United States are living with genital herpes, and one in every six people between the ages of 19 and 49 have the infection. And that's just herpes. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), there are between 55 and 65 million people living in the United States with an incurable sexually transmitted infection (STI) - and these are only the cases that have been tested, documented and reported to the CDC. 

Even though STIs - especially genital herpes, or HSV-2 - are so prevalent, they still carry an enormous stigma. In fact, herpes ranks No.2 - only after HIV/AIDS - as the condition associated with the most stigma and self-consciousness, higher than obesity and disability.

According to popular culture, anyone with herpes, or "the herp,"must be promiscuous, or has fooled around with someone who is. They’re branded for life, and are assumed to have genitals that resemble hamburger meat. Like one character in 2009 comedy "The Hangover" says, "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas - except for herpes; that shit’ll come back with ya." 

But here's the truth: There are many people living with herpes. Living full, normal lives. That includes dating, having healthy long-term relationships and, yes, having sex. 

Viruses, Bacteria and Parasites Don't Discriminate

"One of the biggest misconceptions about STDs and STIs is that they only happen to a certain kind of person," Jenelle Marie, founder of The STD Project told me. "But viruses, bacteria and parasites don’t discriminate! We’re human. Our bodies are not infallible."

Marie, 29, has been living with genital herpes since she was 16. Now, after years of coming out to partners, friends and family members, she has started The STD Project, an online information resource and support network to share stories, and answer all the tough questions that arise when anyone is diagnosed with an STI. 

"When I was diagnosed, my doctor basically said 'here is a prescription and here is the door,'" Marie said. "He didn’t give me resources or tell me about websites or tell me that millions of people are living with herpes and contract it every year. He didn’t tell me that it was manageable."

Many sexual health websites, such as Planned Parenthood, the CDC and even WebMD have information about STIs, how to get tested and how to reduce transmission, but few give recommendations on how to live your life if you're diagnosed with an STI, particularly if it's incurable. That leaves those who have been diagnosed to seek out the scant information that's available on their own - and they're often faced with more media that perpetuates stigma than valuable information on how to proceed. 

Another major misconceptions about sexually transmitted infections is getting tested. A standard test looks for HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia, but not Herpes. To be tested for HSV-2 - the virus that causes herpes - you have to either exhibit visible symptoms of an outbreak, or ask and pay extra for a specific test. This is the case with many other STIs as well. A standard pap smear only reveals one strain of HPV, and there is no test for men to tell whether or not they are carriers. 

Unfortunately, what that means is that many people who get tested leave the clinic with the assumption that they're in clear. In reality, they haven't been tested for everything that they could have - or be at risk of passing on. (Get some tips on how to avoid infection in The Ultimate Guide to Safe Sex.)

Honey .... I Have Something to Tell You

According to a study by Dr. Anna Wald, a virologist at the University of Washington, only half of those infected with genital herpes divulge their status to regular partners. This drops to 20 percent for casual hook ups. The reality is that the more you communicate with sexual partners about your status, the safer they'll be. 

"I don’t think you necessarily have to tell someone on the first date. I don’t say, 'Hi! I’m Jenelle. I have genital herpes. Want to get a coffee?’ But it definitely is important to tell them before you put them at risk," Marie said.

She also recommends arranging a casual date in a private setting to tell any potential partner about an STI. This should include giving them the necessary information to let them make an informed decision about whether they want to pursue a sexual relationship. 

"I tell people the full story. I tell them when I contracted it, that I have genital herpes - I say the full word - then I also tell them what I know," Marie said. 

"I give them some basic information about what it is, how you contract it and transmit it, what it does to your body, how I maintain it and manage it. Then I tell them that there is a lot more information online and I encourage them to do their own research", she said.

"Then I leave. It’s important to let someone process the information on their own."

Does an STI Mean No More Sex?

According to a WebMD survey of 2,000 people - 25 percent of whom had herpes - most uninfected respondents said they would not be interested in pursuing a relationship with someone who had the disease. Even so, in practice, despite the risk, the stigma and the perpetual unpleasantness of the conversation, Marie says she has never been rejected because she carries the herpes virus.

"My ex-husband said, 'That’s it?! I thought you were going to tell me you were pregnant with another guy’s baby!" Marie laughs. 

"My current boyfriend said, 'That’s all you had to tell me? I thought you were going to tell me a horrible secret that you weren’t who you said you were."