Smaller the average penis? No Problem!

It’s the age old question: Does size really matter? Dr. Emily Morse is here to answer your questions about what to do if your man isn’t so well endowed. It’s not as bad of a situation as you might think.

 

In short, penis size doesn’t have to be a pleasure deal-breaker – You can still have amazing sex with a partner whose penis length is less-than-average. Here are 3 tips to help you navigate this small situation and maximize pleasure for both parties!


1. Amp Up The Foreplay:

This is a tip for all men, regardless of what they’re packing down below, because guess what? The majority of women cannot orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Only about 20-30% of ladies consistently climax from plain old penis-and-vagina sex, meaning that less-endowed dudes have as much of a shot as any at providing their partners with multiple O’s.

This is his chance to make the most of the other tools he has at his disposal: his hands and his mouth. The more aroused you are before intercourse, the more likely you will be to have an orgasm. If he goes so far as to deliver you a couple orgasms before his penis even comes into play, then he will have one satisfied customer no matter what goes down in the main event.

2. Mind Your Positions:

There are two main types of orgasms women experience – the oh-so-elusive G-Spot orgasm and the more common clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is located outside of the vagina, (no penis necessary) and your G-Spot is nestled just a few inches inside, meaning you don’t really need a massive member to hit your sweet spots. It’s all about picking the best positions that makes optimal use of what he’s got.

Skip positions like missionary when you can, which aren’t as flattering for his size. Instead, opt for a woman-on-top position that puts the perfect amount of pressure on your clitoris and allows you to control depth and angle of penetration. Also, employ a grinding motion rather than a bounce in order to rub your pleasure points the right way. Another great option: the always popular doggie style! This position allows for some deep penetration, plus it will enable his penis to rub against your G-Spot.

Also, you can get the prime position for some intense penetration by bringing in some a few pillows to place under your womans hips which puts you at the perfect angle for some effort-free G-Spot stimulation and extra-deep intercourse.

3. Sex Toys for Two:

Bringing a sex toy into your lovemaking is great for multiple reasons. It’s kinky, it feels great and it takes a little pressure off your guy and his equipment. My personal favorite couples’ vibrator is the We-Vibe 4 – It’s a toy you can actually wear during intercourse, and is especially useful if your partner is lacking a little in the girth department.

The toy has two prongs, one of which inserts into your vagina while the other rests on top of your clitoris for two times the pleasure! The We-Vibe helps fill you up, making it a tighter fit for your partner, and provides a vibrating sensation that you both will enjoy. Now you can also enjoy it with the new App from anywhere pretty much on the globe!

In essence, there’s no reason to rule out a partner based on the size of their package. If they learn to master other bedroom skills, and are willing to work with what they’ve got, you can still have a very satisfying and orgasmic sex life. After all, it’s the lover, not the sex (or the sex organs, as the case may be), that give the pleasure.


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9 Weird Things Your Penis Does

Discover why your schlong has been acting so strange BY MARKHAM HEID

I believed it was time to give the guys some quick tips & WATCH OUT FOR MY BONUS TIP AT THE END

You shake and bounce, but a stray drop or two of pee still trickles into your underwear as you leave the restroom. Is the O-ring in your penis defective or something? 

"I talk to men all the time who worry about this, but it's not a big deal," says Joseph Sonstein, M.D., a urologist with the University of Texas Medical Branch. (Whew.) Your urethra—the hollow tube that carries urine from your bladder to the tip of your penis—forms a slight upside-down U shape, Dr. Sonstein explains. And there's inevitably a little pee left over in your U when you finish urinating, which gravity causes to leak out after you've zipped up, he adds. 

"It can be a bigger problem for men who have a weak stream, because the lack of force leaves more pee behind to dribble out," Dr. Sonstein adds. A weak stream could be a sign of an enlarged prostate or inflammation, which is common among older guys. But for most young men, a little leakage is nothing to stress about.

WHY DOES SOME SEMEN ALWAYS SHOW UP LATE TO A PARTY?

Like that drop or two of leftover urine, some ejaculate leaks out a few minutes after you've had an orgasm. Dr. Sonstein says the explanation is the same as before: "Semen is just a little more viscous, so it takes more time for gravity to work it out of your urethra," he says. 

WHY DOES YOUR PENIS SHRINK WHEN WET?

Despite what George Costanza says, it's not the wetness that does it. It's the chill of exposing your genitals to cool air or water that causes the "shrinkage," Dr. Sonstein says. Your scrotum hangs outside of your body because your sperm need very specific temperatures to thrive. Muscles in your scrotum and along the "spermatic cord" that leads down from your penis to each testicle contract when you're cold, pulling your scrotum up toward your body. And this contraction tightens your penis muscles and tissue as well, shrinking it, Dr. Sonstein says. (The opposite happens when you're hot, causing your testicles and penis to hang farther from your body, he adds.) 

WHY DO YOU PITCH A TENT EVERY MORNING?

Your testosterone levels peak in the A.M., which explains your perky member, Dr. Sonstein says. There's also some evidence you become erect—even when you're not aroused—in order to maintain proper sexual function. "It's sort of the old 'if you don't use it, you lose it' thing," Dr. Sonstein adds. So that explains your otherwise curious midday, driving-in-your-car boners. 

WHY DO SOME MEN EXPERIENCE 'WET DREAMS'?

Again, this is probably the result of elevated testosterone levels, which rise while you sleep, says Dr. Sonstein. "That's why adolescent men, whose testosterone levels tend to be really high, experience more wet dreams than older men." Dr. Sonstein says there's some anecdotal evidence—but no proof—that wet dreams occur more often when a lot of time has passed between your orgasms, and so this could be your body's way of making room for fresher sperm supplies. 

WHY DOES YOUR URINE SOMETIMES SHOOT OUT AT A STRANGE ANGLE?

Your urine stream's "crazy Ivan" schtick tends to occur after sex, after masturbation, or in the morning if you ejaculated just before bed—or while you slept—Dr. Sonstein says. Why? It's nearly always because a little semen is still hanging out in your urethra from your last orgasm, which creates an obstruction. If the odd angle doesn't go away soon, it could be a sign of scar tissue or an STD, Dr. Sonstein adds. 

WHY DO SOME MEN'S PENIS' BECOME SO MUCH LARGER WHEN ERECT, WHEN SOME DON'T GROW MUCH AT ALL?

Maybe you've heard some guys are "growers, not showers." At least anecdotally, that seems to be true. "Men who are smaller when flaccid tend to get much longer when erect," Dr. Sonstein says. "Whereas men who are long when flaccid tend to get harder, but not that much bigger. It's all just genetics." 

WHY IS URINE YELLOW NO MATTER WHAT YOU EAT OR DRINK?

Urine contains a chemical called urobilin, which is involved in the breakdown of fluid that takes place in your kidneys, says Dr. Sonstein. Urobilin is yellow, and the more of it you see in your pee, the less that biochemical is being diluted by water or other fluids you drink. If you're properly hydrated, healthy urine should actually be pretty close to clear, Dr. Sonstein explains. 

ONCE OR TWICE YOU'VE HAD A PROBLEM HAVING AN ERECTION DURING SEX, WHAT GIVES?

This is called "situational erectile dysfunction," and a ton of guys experience it, Dr. Sonstein says. "Usually it's stress- or relationship problem-related." If you're feeling a lot of pressure or anxiety, it can tense you up to the point that you have problems getting hard. Dr. Sonstein says if it gets really bad, he'll occasionally prescribe a low dose of an ED drug like Viagra to help a patient get his confidence back. 

MEL'S TIP

In regards to the above question there is also another important point to know especially for men as young as teenagers to mid to late 40's. ED is linked to high speed internet porn. It rewires the pleasure centre of your brain. Here is a common scenario: You are with a woman you find attractive, you are totally into what is happening but you can't get it up! Be aware that this is because messages are not being sent from the brain to your penis. This is even more frustrating for men to understand as they have no problem when porn viewing only when in real life situations. Men have a tendency to believe it is 'performance anxiety' however this is not the case. 

Here is some links to great videos to watch

The Great Porn Experiment:TedX with Gary Wilson
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82...

The Science of Porn addiction - Gabes Story
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGGxX...

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7 Safe, Sizzling Sex Positions for Pregnant Women

By CJ Edwards, July 5, 2013

Takeaway:Get sexy by getting comfortable. These seven hot positions are a great way to get it on with a bun in the oven.

Source: Elitravo

Pregnancy is one of the most hormonal times in a woman's life. You're up, down, happy, sad, and ... horny? Yup, you read that right! Many women experience a nice big spike in their sex drives when they're pregnant. Unfortunately, many women and their partners shy away from sex during pregnancy out of fear, or just because they aren't sure how to work with that big, round belly.

So, what's a girl to do when she's hornier than a Viking's helmet with a bun in the oven? First, she's got to realize that there are a number of myths surrounding sex during pregnancy, many of which aren't true. Let's take a look at a couple of the most common ones.

Having an orgasm during pregnancy can stimulate pre-term labor. 

When a woman has an orgasm, her uterus contracts and a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone responsible for triggering labor contractions, is also released. Because of this, it's no surprise that many people believe that having an orgasm can trigger pre-term labor, or even a miscarriage. Thankfully, this isn't the case in healthy pregnancies. In fact, because of the increased blood flow in the pelvic region you may even experience better orgasms than ever before. Don't pass this up! 

A man's penis can poke the baby's head.

Um, no. While he'd probably like to believe that his monstrous member is large enough to reach all the way into your uterus, this is an anatomical impossibility. First of all, while he may bump into your cervix from time to time, the cervix is anywhere from 2.5 to 4.5 centimeters thick. Baby is also protected on all sides by water and amniotic fluid. 

Sperm can reach the fetus.

During a healthy pregnancy, the cervix is sealed by a mucus plug, so there's no way that ejaculate can enter the uterus. In most cases, this plug stays in place until the pregnancy reaches full term and the early stages of labor begin. Even after you lose the mucus plug, it's still usually considered safe to have sex, since the fetus is still surrounded by the amniotic sac. 

Sex during pregnancy can hurt the mother or the baby. 

Sex during all stages of pregnancy is usually safe and rather enjoyable for most women. In fact, unless your doctor advises against it, there's absolutely no reason why you can't have sex when pregnant. Just don't try to get too tricky; the baby's well protected, but a pregnant body is often less nimble and more susceptible to injury. 

As the baby bump grows, however, traditional sex positions can become somewhat uncomfortable for the mother or even dangerous for the fetus. The top sex positions when pregnant are usually the ones that minimize stress on the woman's abdomen, which can help prevent injury and discomfort. The following sex positions have been considered to be the safest and most comfortable sex positions by expecting mothers and doctors alike. 

Any and All (Gentle) Woman on Top Positions

By positioning themselves on top, women can eliminate any pressure on the baby belly. Not only is this much more comfortable for you, but it's also considered to be a little safer for your baby. As an added bonus, most woman-on-top positions give women more control and easier access to the clitoris. The cowgirl and reverse cowgirl positions are the most common woman-on-top positions, but the rocking horse and yogi positions are also great. 

Spooning

The spooning position requires that both partners lie on their sides, with the man's chest against the woman's back. This way your partner can thrust into you from behind and massage your clitoris with his fingers or a vibrator. Although this position takes the pressure off of your belly, you may want to stash a few pillows under it for extra support. 

Doggy Style

Doggy style is one of the most popular sex positions during pregnancy for a number of reasons. First of all, when in a doggy style position, there's no pressure on your belly. Also, the angle of penetration is better for stimulating the G-spot, and also allows access to the clitoris. However, once your baby belly starts getting bigger, you may find that the weight of your little one hanging down can be a bit much in this position. As an alternative, you can try the leapfrog position, which requires you to support yourself with your forearms on the bed. This will take the weight off your back and enable you to place a few pillows under your belly. 

The Cross

The cross sex position is great for pregnant women and their partners because it requires very little effort. To get into this position, have your man lie on his side. You can then lie on your back perpendicular to him, with your legs draped over his waist. Keep in mind, though, that if you have a very large belly, you shouldn't stay in this position for too long, as it can interfere with the flow of blood and nutrients through placenta.

The Tabletop

If you're looking for a quickie in the kitchen, the tabletop's the sex position for you! This position requires you to sit on a sturdy, waist-high tabletop and for your man to stand in front of you. As he thrusts in and out, you can support yourself by leaning back on your arms or wrapping your arms around his neck. This position can also be adapted so you're sitting on the bed with him kneeling in front of you.

Scissors

Like the cross, the scissors position requires very little effort on the woman's part, so it's a great option if you're dead tired but still want a romp in the hay. This position requires you to lie on your side and lift your top leg. Your man can then straddle your bottom leg and support you top leg on his shoulder as he thrusts into you. Again, you may also want to place some pillows under your belly for support. 

69 Position

Sometimes you may not be able to have sex when pregnant, or you just might not want to. Don't rule out a steamy session with your lover, though. Consider getting into the 69 position, either on the top or the bottom, whichever makes you more comfortable. An orgasm feels just as good - and sometimes even better - when it's a product of oral sex. 

Get Down With Your Pregnant Self

There's not need to cut out sex when you're pregnant. In fact, many women report having some of the best sex of their lives. Chances are you've probably already been banned from a few of life's other great pleasures, such as wine, coffee, some cheeses and even sushi. Isn't it nice to know that sex isn't one of them?

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His Hot Spots: Erogenous Zones for Men

Written by Donna Turner

When it comes to the hot spots – or erogenous zones, more formally – on a guy, chances are your mind goes directly to the penis. This is completely understandable though, because that’s most likely where his mind goes too.

However, it’s far from the only touchable part on his body, so next time you’re getting touchy-feely, be sure to put some focus on the following spots to drive him extra wild.

His E-spot

Otherwise known as his ears, we’re referring to them as the E-spot because guys don’t have any (insert letter)-spots attributed to them. You’re welcome, guys.

The choice bit of the ear to focus on would be the outer ridge, where the firmness of the cartilage can be nibbled lightly between kisses. Try tracing it with the tip of your nose, followed by the hot, wet sensation of your tongue – throw in some heavy breathing, and he’ll be weak in the knees in no time.

His Cheek-spots

And no, we’re not talking about the ones on his face (either way, they’ve got dimples).

He more than likely puts a lot of focus on your butt cheeks, whether he’s grabbing, stroking or spanking them with an open palm or flogger, so now it’s time to give hissome much-needed attention. Have him lie on his stomach to give you full access to his butt, and try a very light touch to start out. Very lightly tickle the surface of his skin with the very tips of your fingernails or a feather teaser, and then have him relax his glutes (no butt flexing!) as you knead your fists deep into the muscly tissue of his cheeks.

Because it tends to be a rare point of focus during intimacy, the attention you’re putting on his butt will likely be an all-new kind of excitement, and will allow you to gauge his response to the next erogenous zone on our list…

His G-spot

Yep, ladies aren’t the only ones with a magic button that delivers explosive climaxes. A man’s G-spot is his prostate, and when his prostate is massaged just right, he’ll experience the kind of orgasm he never, ever thought possible.

The walnut-sized gland can be massaged with your fingertip or a prostate massager while his penis is being otherwise stimulated. Assuming he’s into it, the most effective path to the prostate is through his anus; with a well-lubricated finger, apply pressure to the front wall of his colon, about 2 inches in, with light swirls and taps with your fingertips. Pro tip: keep your nails short!

The indirect way to give him prostate pleasure is a bit less effective, however if he enjoys it he’ll be much more open to the massage method we mentioned above. When you’re stimulating his penis either orally or during a hand job, position yourself so that you have two fingertips placed over his perineum – the area between his scrotum and anus. As he begins to approach climax, start applying pressure to this spot to indirectly massage his prostate.

BILLY

LUX RANGE

ANAL FANTASY PROSTATE MASSAGER

His F-spot

Here’s one you may never have heard of. Imagine, if you will, a penis – now, think of the underside of it. You know that thin band of skin that connects the head with the shaft? That’s called the frenulum, and it’s actually full of nerve connections that are very sensitive to the right kind of touch.

When giving him oral sex, use your hand to stroke his shaft at the same time, but keep your elbow up so that your finger tips are sliding over the underside of his penis. When you move your hands up and down the length of his shaft in tandem with the movements of your mouth, you’ll also be stroking his frenulum and sending him into a sensual frenzy at the same time.

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Random Sex Facts You Didn’t Know

So you know everything there is to know about sex, do you? You’ve covered all the ins and outs of the ol’ in-and-out? Been around the block so many times that there’s a street named after you?

Hopefully you’re not so wise as to be forever unsurprised.

Anything worth taking pleasure in is a lifelong pursuit of wisdom in itself, and we’d be surprised if you knew every one of the following sex facts on our list; so strap in and get ready to take notes, because school is now in session!

The Average Erect Penis is 5 to 5.7 Inches Long

Bet you thought 6 inches was the normal size, didn’t you? Well, that fabled figure of 6 inches is one that’s been rounded up for many years now (most likely by guys), which admittedly is not the most surprising statistic we’ve got, considering that…

…Your Vagina Also Grows During Arousal – A Lot!

Regularly (read; when you’re not turned on), an average vagina is three to four inches long. When you’re in the mood for sex however, it stretches to 200% its normal size!

Her Orgasm Lasts 4 Times Longer than His

While it may take a woman longer to get there, when she arrives at climax it’s a worthwhile journey. This is because compared to a man’s orgasm, which lasts an average of a paltry 6 seconds, a woman’s orgasm can go on for as long as 20 seconds! High fives, ladies! Solemn nods, gentlemen.

Good news, right? But hold on a minute there, because…

…Two-thirds of Women have Faked It

And by ‘it’, we of course mean an orgasm.

Seriously? That kind of false reinforcement isn’t going to ensure your satisfaction in the long term if he thinks what he’s doing is getting you off. If you’ve got a partner who’s truly interested in pleasing you, and you’re a big fan of pleasure yourself, let them know what it takes to reach your big O.

Women Report 4 Sex Partners in their Lifetime. Men Report 7

The American Centers for Disease Control estimate that women’s total median of lifetime sexual partners is 4 compared to a man’s 7, but there’s a bit more to this stat than first meets the eye.

First off, men are much more likely to exaggerate when it comes to sex compared to women, but this is in part due to what an individual’s definition of ‘sex’ even is in the first place. Women tend to have a more complex relationship with sex and intimacy than men, making their definition a bit more involved and harder-defined. In any case, it’s worth keeping in mind that these figures are medians, meaning there are more or less on either side.

We’ll end the lesson here for now and let you study up on your own –the homework is the best part!

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