Maintaining Your Post-Menopause Sexuality

Hot flashes, mood swings and intermittent insomnia are symptoms of menopause that every woman is aware of, even if they aren’t at menopausal age yet. But what many aren’t familiar with is the ways menopause affects us that we’re perhaps less than comfortable discussing.

Facing Up to Menopause

You see, the decrease in your body’s estrogen and the weakening of your pelvic muscles that occurs during this time leads to some intimate issues like mild incontinence when you laugh, vaginal dryness that itches throughout the day, and awkward, uncomfortable moments during intercourse.

It all sounds quite depressing – but it doesn’t have to be.

The Importance of Intimate Exercise

A number of menopausal symptoms can be lessened with a bit of preparation with pelvic floor exercising. Pelvic floor exercises, or ‘Kegels’, are the solution that everyone’s talking about, and are recommended by doctors to help you;

Strengthen the muscles of your pelvic floor

Increase your sensations and enjoyment from intercourse

Help prevent and control incontinence


Kegel exercising is considered by many as being vital to intimate health, but many women have trouble following the correct exercise routine based on written instructions alone. This can often result in a lot of effort being spent on strengthening the incorrect muscles.

LUNA Beads™: A Simple – and Simply Effective – Solution 

Ben Wa balls – used primarily for pleasure for thousands of years, are now the widely-recommended solution for easier and more effective pelvic floor exercising. Ensuring that women can choose the best possible items for such an intimate purpose, LELO offers the LUNA Beads™ pelvic fitness solution, the trusted bestseller among Kegel weights since 2009.

The secret is to wear the weighted LUNA Beads™ during your daily routine to give you a static device to squeeze your muscles around, while the beads within LUNA cause movements to help you feel when your muscles respond.

LUNA Beads™ makes pelvic floor exercising safe, easy and efficient, with benefits that speak for themselves. 

If your looking for a variety of Kegel style balls check out this page covering the Fun Factory Toyfriend beginner weights, Lelo Luna beads 3 styles for those pre (mini) & post pregnancy and the experienced black beads with moving weights and the Nalone Miu Miu vibrating balls. There's something for everyone!

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Reaching Climax During Lovemaking

Did you know that our leading supplier LELO’s Wellbeing Experts write a monthly column in Wellness Magazine?

Well, considering that it’s a Sweden-only publication written entirely in Swedish, we don’t blame you if you’ve never heard of it. Every month, reader questions are passed to our experts, who give their advice on sex-related issues that are on the minds of many.

Hi LELO!

My boyfriend comes pretty quickly when we’re having sex, and this leaves me having my orgasms in ways other than penetration. While not a complaint per-se, I’d like to be able to climax while we’re having sex.

Is there anything you can suggest to either help him last longer, or are there any tricks or moves to speed up the process for me?

Marie

Marie,

So it seems your boyfriend is finishing too quickly for you both to enjoy the main event, but what about the pre-game warm up?

Men and women are very different creatures, sexually speaking, and there’s a state of arousal called the ‘orgasmic plateau’, where, in both sexes, orgasm is imminent. It takes women considerably longer to reach this stage than men, so if you’re looking for more mutually-timed orgasms, we suggest a little forward thinking when it comes to foreplay.

You both need to spend some more time focusing on what comes before the actual act of sex itself, getting you ‘revved up’, so to speak, so that you’re as close as you can be to attaining an orgasm during penetrative sex.

Try incorporating a small external vibrator like NEA, ALIA or MIA 2  that can be used easily by you and your partner to get you to your plateau in a fast and fun way.

If your issue is that during lovemaking you get close, so close, right to the edge of climax – only to have him finish before you, try adding some extra ‘oomph’ to your intercourse.

There exist vibrators that you or he are able to wear during sex that will provide you with a bit extra rumble to get you over the edge of that plateau and tumbling into ‘orgasm valley’ (not a real term, but it works).

Try something like TOR 2 – a vibrating ring he can wear around his member that will not only supply external vibrations for you, but the gentle constriction of the ring can result in extra stamina for him – making it a sensual win/win situation!

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A Guide to Kissing


To experience the full kissing guide that contains 40 kissing variations, review the insert contained within the product box after purchase.

X on the lips have new flavours Strawberry and Bubblegum for those wanting to add a little flavour. With a hint of pheromones in this balm it enough to make your partner go wild!

The X Kiss The most electrifying, amazing kiss you will every experience. The X Kiss is done by applying X On The Lips. Immediately, the pheromones will begin… To attract your lover. When you begin to feel the electricity on your lips, it’s on! Kiss your lover, or potential/hopeful lover, and share the energy! It will be the best kiss of both of your lives, and the one that you and your lover will never forget!	The Therapeutic Kiss The next time your lover has a headache or is stressed out, try this kissing technique… Put your lips on the bridge of their nose and slowly deliver a series of soft kisses. The gentle pressure of the kisses and delicate warmth of your breath will ease their tension, lower blood pressure, quiet their mind, and help them de-stress.
The French Kiss Probably the most famous kiss there is, the French kiss is an open-mouthed kiss where one person’s tongue touches the other person’s tongue… Also called a “tongue kiss,” the French kiss is easy enough to execute, but it can take years to master.	The Single-Lip Kiss To give someone a single-lip kiss, take one of their lips between yours and gently suck or tug on it. It’s an awfully romantic kiss, and if you do it right, you’ll send tingles up and down your lover’s spine.
The Spiderman Kiss Based on the kiss in the 2002 movie Spider-Man, the Spiderman kiss involves kissing someone whose… Face is upside-down from yours, so your top lip kisses their bottom lip and vice versa.	All Over Kiss Grab your lover gently. Then begin kissing forehead, moving down to nose. Tenderly, with an aggressive feeling… Give your lover your best kiss right on the lips. Next, move your way down and continue with your own imagination.

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Car Sex Tips & Position Idea

Perhaps it’s something you haven’t tried since high school, but car sex can add a sexy element to partner play that can still get your motor running, ifyouknowwhatwemean.

No matter what make or model you’re driving, as long as it’s got 4 wheels (5, including the steering wheel), you can try out any of our suggested car sex positions, provided you take the following precautions before taking any of them for a spin;

1) Just like some sneaky outdoor sex, do it after dark for added privacy and cooler temperatures.

2) Bring a towel for post-play clean up and to protect your bottom from possibly sticking to the seats if they’re leather.

3) Make sure the car is in park and the keys are out of the ignition (obviously).

Forward-Facing Reverse-Cowgirl

Push the driver’s seat back and recline it as far as it will go so he’s lying down, then sit in his lap facing out the front of the car; keep your hands on the steering wheel to help you grind. Passing drivers will only see your head and shoulders, leaving them none the wiser!

Roof Romance

Lying on your back on the car’s roof with your butt near the edge and your thighs on his shoulders puts you in the perfect position to be receiving oral. The aforementioned towel you brought along comes in handy if the metal is too hot – lay it out and lay on top of it.

Rear-Ended

The confined spaces and medium heights vehicles provide open up a lot of possibilities for doggie-style sex; you on your hands and knees in the back seat while he stands outside the door or on the passenger seat pushed all the way back. Even with your hands simply on the hood, vehicles are made for this kind of thing!

Sun Roof? More Like ‘Fun’ Roof!

There are two great ways you can make use of the sun roof if you’ve got one; have him sit in the passenger seat as you stand out of the sun roof with your feet on either side of his hips. You can then wrap your thighs around his face like you’re sitting on his shoulders – but in reverse. In this way he can treat you to oral sex while you’re looking out the top of the car like it’s prom night.

In the second scenario, you’re sitting on the edge of the sun roof while he stands with one foot on the passenger seat and one in the driver’s seat. You can lie on your back as he enters you or sit up so you can be face to face; this is done the same way as if you’re having sex on a kitchen counter or dining room table, but your shared rhythm will get the whole car rockin’ like a waterbed!

ADD SOME FUN

How about trying out a bit of foreplay with the radio and the NEW amazing Nalone Rythm Massager. This little baby is sound activated so crank up the tunes or even the dirty talk to start the fun in your car!

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