Reasons why every woman should masturbate

Have you ever wondered why we as women should masturbate (especially if you have a partner)?

I always wondered about this as my personal opinion and behaviour was "Why would I do this when he can do it for me?"

WRONG!

As I have said in the past and will say again,

"If your not having sex with you, how can you expect anyone else to want to have sex with you!"

So now its time to look at a bunch of reasons why YOU should masturbate and I will make it as plain and simple as I can.

You become more comfortable with your body

Here is the deal, the more you know your body the better you are at instructing your partner on where to go hunting for that sometimes mysterious spot that ends in an orgasm. Your pussy doesn't come with a manual just like a baby doesn't pop out with an instruction manual so ladies know where all your points of pleasure exist, instruct your partner and enjoy the increased new found bliss that comes with it.

Your future partner will commend you for it

Do you know how hard it is to navigate every different vagina? I bet you didn't. Its not like a guys anatomy. Ours is more complicated ladies with different sensations in different places for all of us. 

Its NOT a one size fits all concept where a partner learns one road map and it suits all women. So learn what makes you tick and talk talk talk about it!

It can drastically improve your sex life

When you know where to navigate and pass that information on, whether that is through subtle hints and tips or just a blunt "show an tell" session, trust me, there is no way your sex life can't instantly improve.

Great tension reliever

Stressed? Can't sleep? Simply...masturbate. Now depending on that stress level may depend on how many times you need to do this to 'take the edge off' however masturbation has always been a great stress relief. I mean think about, don't you occasionally say "Thank God" after you've experienced a Big O? I do!

Definitely helps with the zzzzz

Now I know that its not uncommon that when I have sex at night I can end up wide awake (statistically this is common within women), however when I am stressed out and go for a Big O I find that that release in tension (like I said above) helps me to visit la la land much faster.

Increases your happiness

How would you like to have a natural mood enhancer? Did you know that orgasms release a bunch of chemicals into your system like endorphins, oxytocin and our favourite...dopamine, which are all instant uplift mood enhancers?

So forget the hardcore gym workout and medical drugs and opt for a series of intense orgasms instead to lighten up your day.

There are toys to assist in the exploration process

I could list 20 reasons why you are not having sex or masturbating right now. One of them is you never experience orgasms during sex (and a biggy for 85% of women who don't orgasm with penetration sex). So why not instead of letting your fingers do the walking add a new playmate toy to search, discover and vibrate you into a new level playing field. Toys are also great for those who have cultural, religious or physical disabilities to experience a whole new level of pleasure without technically getting your hands dirty. I have never heard of a woman not being pleasured with the right toy so I dare you to try!

Amazingly relieves menstrual tension

Personally I've never been a big fan of having sex during 'that time of the month' however I have noticed that an orgasm has definitely alleviated the pain I experience at this time. When you orgasm you experience contractions increasing the blood flow and in-turn easing your cramps. Due to the mess factor I suggest finding your favourite toy and combining that with some special shower time to get the job done. Would you prefer a hot water bottle or an orgasm? Think about it.

Keeps your body sexual

So your in a sexual hiatus for some reason. With masturbating you are not only keeping the elasticity and tissues in your private parts working, you are also increasing the blood flow to that area. Sex for women happens in the brain as we all know and by masturbating we are keeping that part of our brain active (imaginary and sensory) so when we get to bringing in a new partner to the scenario its like no time has passed. Here is a tip: the more sex you have the more sex you want!

How would you like multiple orgasms

So some of you have never had one. Why not try multiple. Did you know that when you have your first orgasm its easy to back it up with another one within minutes? Again a lot of women only experience this the first time after a little toy play cause lets face it...our hands get tired!

 

Why not?

Thats right...why not. I know some of us have cultural and religious beliefs that get in the way of having sex before marriage however since when have they stated you can't orgasm before marriage? So let your fingers do the walking and hold clear a vision of your future partners expression when you know what does and doesn't work the first time you get naked between the sheets.

It feels bloody amazing

Did I mention is F'n fantastic! You can keep your walks in the park thank you. I'll take a mind blowing orgasm any day. Your head will feel light, even a little dizzy like, your breath will quicken, your cheeks will go naturally rosie and you'll feel simply amazing! 

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LELO Wins Top Prize at 2014 A’ Design Awards

Great news! Our  personal massager ORA™ has won the Platinum Trophy at the A’ Design Awards, the highest honor given at the awards, held this year on April 12^th in Como, Italy.

ORA™, our latest product, is designed to closely simulate the unique sensations of oral sex for women. This latest victory marks our third time being honored by an authoritative body in high design after we won the Red Dot Design award in 2012 and 2013.

Other winners included Nike, Vodafone and Speedo, and were chosen by a panel of academic and professional experts on product design based on innovation, usability, presentation and ergonomics. Needless to say, ORA™ was a shoe-in from the word ‘go’.

We’re delighted with the result, especially since we only launched ORA™ in January. It immediately captured interest by offering the most realistic sensations akin to receiving oral sex, while the first promotional video for the product gained over four hundred thousand views in less than three weeks.

Lelo CEO Miroslav Slavic said; ‘Many thanks to A’ Design and all of the judges for bestowing such a great honor on our ORA™ personal massager. It is awards like this and all of the overwhelmingly positive feedback we’ve received from customers that further confirm just how amazing ORA™ is, and how totally unique it is from every pleasure product on the market today.’

We’d like to thank everyone involved, and we’d especially like to thank our loyal customers for supporting us and spreading the word about ORA™ and the pleasure it can offer.

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When You Want It More Then He Does

Hey readers, 

Found this great article and wanted to share with you all.

On a personal note, I have been in this position a few times. I found that my age increased my libido and their work, stress, mind or depression decreased theirs. I believe this is a common problem with many of us so please take in the wise words below to better understand.

I remember too well discovering the utter pleasure of having sex with one particular partner (who will remain unnamed). The first few times weren't great, but once I felt comfortable and confident, there was no stopping me. I couldn't get enough.

But whereas I was getting more and more excited about all the sexy things he could do to me and I could do to him — I felt like a hormonal teenager because all I could think about was having sex with him — it soon became clear that he didn't want it as much as I did.

Being sexually rejected on an almost daily basis was hard to take.

Not only did he make me feel unattractive, but he also made me feel like I was a nymphomaniac. That relationship only lasted for eleven months in total. In hindsight, I wish I had known how to better deal with my feelings of rejection.

The sexual stereotype that men have stronger libidos has left women such as myself feeling rejected and hurt, not to mention sexually frustrated.

But gender researcher Professor Hugo Schwyzer points out it's important to distinguish feelings of rejection from feelings of sexual frustration.

"While it's undeniably upsetting to be the one who 'wants it more', how much of the upset is tied to feeling 'like a freak' because women aren't supposed to have the higher libido?".

"Rejection never feels good, just as having to reject isn't much fun either. But clearly, to be a young woman with a consistently higher sexual desire than one's male partner is always going to be especially painful because of the way in which it contradicts all of our cultural programming. The one comfort that folks in my position can offer — and I do offer it repeatedly — is to remind those who are confused and hurting that this is not nearly as unusual as they think." In fact, it was recently proven that women's sexual desire is just as strong and ravenous as men's — proving once and for all that the belief that men want more sex than women is just a myth, and that our expectations of how women are in bed have been shaped by cultural beliefs.

So what can you do if you want it more than he does? Is having mismatched libidos a deal breaker in a relationship?

If you truly love your partner, but fear your mismatched libidos are a problem, here are a few questions you should ask yourself:

•Why don't you masturbate? Having your own sex life can not only improve your general health and well-being, but also the state of your relationship. Think sexy thoughts about your partner while self-pleasuring if it helps making you feel closer to your partner. For beginners, we recommend using a toy like Nalone Roma — it's sleek, discrete and will pinpoint all of the vibrations to your clitoris, giving you sensational C-spot orgasms. Can be used on your own or even later with a partner. If you're looking for something even more earth shattering, you might like to try The Kissing Swan by Swan for dual C-spot and G-spot stimulation.

•Do you really want sex? Or is it intimacy, affection and maybe just confirmation that he desires you that you're really after? Learn to differentiate between sex and affection. A cuddle on the coach or an intimate massage session can satisfy your immediate hunger if it's really intimacy you want.

However, if you are really concerned about your mismatched libidos, talking to a relationship or sex therapist could be a good idea.

For me? Well, I'm happy to announce that I'm in a sexually very satisfactory relationship today, and my man wants it just as much as I do. Which is a lot — but we both love it!

Enjoy yourself.

Miss M

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