Mastering the Art of Skype Sex

Technology; some claim that it drives us apart and alienates us from each other. But if you’re one of the millions who are currently in a long-distance relationship, technology is all you have to bridge the gap between you and your lover. Lucky for these people, VoP software like Skype exists, and allows you to go the distance in spite of the distance.

And while getting sensual over Skype can feel a little intimidating or unnatural at first, remind yourself that every experimental pursuit takes some getting used to. Keeping this in mind, here are LELO’s top 5 Skype sex secrets:

Out with the Insecurity 
The biggest mistake people make while having Skype sex is dampening the mood by letting their insecurity or inexperience show by saying things like, I don’t know what to do or I’m feeling shy. There’s nothing quite as unsexy as a lack of confidence. If you’re feeling bashful or can’t think of anything sexy to say, here’s a hint: say nothing at all, and let your body do the talking.

Play by the Rules

Skype sex is just that—sex. That means that an arousing buildup of foreplay is just as important as it is during physical intercourse. Of course you need to adjust your tantalizing techniques accordingly (more on that later), but don’t make the experience seem unnatural or chore-like by saying things like Should we start now?  Enjoy a glass of wine together, ask about one another’s day, and fan the flames of desire with a simple physical compliment.

Keep it Real

While no substitute for the real thing, you might surprise yourself with how intense a session of Skype sex could be with a little creativity. Introduce a vibrator to your cyber session and supply him with an arousing visual while you experience some more-than-arousing sensations. Be sure to also use your vibrator to experiment with point-of-view positions and angles and communicate with one another to establish a mutual rhythm and pace.   

Know Your Role

Since Skype sex stimulates your imagination, why not take advantage of the opportunity to further explore some role-playing fantasies and fetishes? Before initiating a Skype call you intend to turn frisky, slip on a sexy role play outfit (e.g.—maid or nurse) your man has previously revealed fantasizing about underneath your pajamas or normal daywear. When the timing’s right, slowly reveal your outfit and apologize you can’t be there to pick his jaw up off the floor.

Redefine ‘Homecoming’

Since it’s inevitable that you’ll see one another again, plant a seed of sensual anticipation in his mind that will sprout until your eventual reunion. During Skype sex foreplay, let him know that there’s something else also longing for his arrival. Surprise him by visually introducing him to a remote-controlled couples’ bullet vibrator. Able to be used at a distance of over 100 feet, couples’ bullet vibrators offer an enticing alternative to ‘long-distance’ love-making that leaves nothing to the imagination.

While you may be unable to make a physical connection while your partner is away, Skype has shown us that an internet connection provides a kinkier-than-expected alternative to sex while awaiting the return to a lover’s arms.

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Raise your Sexual Self-esteem

From time to time, we just don’t feel as sexy as we’d like. Be it work or family stress, a simple lapse in our exercise routine, or just a plain break from romantic reality, we’re just not feeling our sexual selves. When this happens, here are some tried and tested tricks that will have you back to your bedroom best!



Log Off


According to Canadian researchers in a study published in CyberPsychology & Behavior, the more time spent on Facebook, Twitter and other social networking sites actually increased feelings of jealousy one may have towards their partner. The theory goes that the information one is privy to on these sites can turn curiosity into anxiety regarding past partners and perceived threats to a relationship, which leads to jealousy.

So practice caution, and take stock of the situation before you find yourself in a stalking situation.

Look at Really Hot (REAL) Women

In case you needed reminding on this point, the women you’re looking at in magazines and on TV are not the real women that you see around you in your day-to-day, let alone what real men are after! Take a break from mass media to hit the gym and see what us people in the real world look like, and remind yourself that sexy takes many forms, including yours!

Tune In

This bit of advice is still as true as it ever was – putting on some tracks you deem sexy can affect your feelings toward getting romantic. It’s a mood altering substance that can change the way you feel about yourself and everything around you.

What do we suggest? Pick up L-O-V-E: The Essential Al Green, Lover’s Rock by Sade, or the self-titled debut album by The xx – if these don’t get you in an amorous mood, nothing will!

Put the Stopwatch Down

If entertainment is anything to go by, good sex is a calendar-clearing event that lasts hours at a time. If your usual encounters are clocking in at less than ten minutes, don’t assume that your bedroom time trials are lacking – a 2008 survey of North America’s top sex therapists revealed that sex classified as ‘normal and good’ lasts between 3 and 13 minutes!

Wear Something Slinky

Clichés begin from truth, but when if it works, it works; one of the fastest and easiest ways to get your mood from zero to sexy is with some lingerie. It doesn’t have to be tight, it doesn’t have to be lacy or delicate, but if the intended look is a sensual one, it will do the trick.

An enticing yet comfortable choice would be a silk robe, or if you’re after a bit of fantasy fulfillment, then maybe a sexy outfit like a French Maid might be more your speed.

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How Winter Affects Your Sex Life

Ah the cold, cosy winter evenings. You know the ones we’re talking about, when all you want to do is wrap yourself in a quilt, relax in front of the fire – and have sex. That’s at least according to a number of U.S. studies regarding seasonal affects on sensuality; winter is when we all start getting a little hot under the collar (of our puffy down jackets).

Did you know that that most common shared birthday is September 16^th? This means that most babies are conceived in December (August is when the least babies are conceived).

That alone doesn’t prove that winter is when we can expect an uptick in our sexual encounters, but despite the increase in conceptions, the holidays also see a jump in the sales of condoms. Twice as many are sold the week before Christmas than the week after, further indicating that many are enjoying a holly jolly holiday indeed!

And ladies, winter is when you can truly feel your sexiest, as a Polish study found that men find women more attractive in winter than in the summer months. Is it the increased coverage of skin that winter clothing provides that gets the imagination going? Either way, it’s the perfect time of year to make the most of a slinky item of sexy lingerie, the sales of which also explode during the winter months.

So what are you going to do with your cold climate sexual upswing? You know that we have a few ideas. The chillier evenings make it a perfect time to spend with a partner getting closer with a sensual massage using massage oils or massage oil candles, and to follow up a prelude like that, share some new sensations with a wearable couples’ vibrator – let it snow, indeed!

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