Reaching Climax During Lovemaking

Did you know that our leading supplier LELO’s Wellbeing Experts write a monthly column in Wellness Magazine?

Well, considering that it’s a Sweden-only publication written entirely in Swedish, we don’t blame you if you’ve never heard of it. Every month, reader questions are passed to our experts, who give their advice on sex-related issues that are on the minds of many.

Hi LELO!

My boyfriend comes pretty quickly when we’re having sex, and this leaves me having my orgasms in ways other than penetration. While not a complaint per-se, I’d like to be able to climax while we’re having sex.

Is there anything you can suggest to either help him last longer, or are there any tricks or moves to speed up the process for me?

Marie

Marie,

So it seems your boyfriend is finishing too quickly for you both to enjoy the main event, but what about the pre-game warm up?

Men and women are very different creatures, sexually speaking, and there’s a state of arousal called the ‘orgasmic plateau’, where, in both sexes, orgasm is imminent. It takes women considerably longer to reach this stage than men, so if you’re looking for more mutually-timed orgasms, we suggest a little forward thinking when it comes to foreplay.

You both need to spend some more time focusing on what comes before the actual act of sex itself, getting you ‘revved up’, so to speak, so that you’re as close as you can be to attaining an orgasm during penetrative sex.

Try incorporating a small external vibrator like NEA, ALIA or MIA 2  that can be used easily by you and your partner to get you to your plateau in a fast and fun way.

If your issue is that during lovemaking you get close, so close, right to the edge of climax – only to have him finish before you, try adding some extra ‘oomph’ to your intercourse.

There exist vibrators that you or he are able to wear during sex that will provide you with a bit extra rumble to get you over the edge of that plateau and tumbling into ‘orgasm valley’ (not a real term, but it works).

Try something like TOR 2 – a vibrating ring he can wear around his member that will not only supply external vibrations for you, but the gentle constriction of the ring can result in extra stamina for him – making it a sensual win/win situation!

www.loveandindulgence.com.au

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Healthy Meals for More Mojo: Foods that Naturally Increase Libido

For thousands of years, people have searched for edible items to guarantee peak sexual performance and pleasure. Ancient Romans swore by hippo snouts, while even now, tiger penis is thought to be a libido booster in China. 
Luckily for you (and the hippos and the tigers), there are healthier and more palatable edibles that give you longer-lasting results than quick-fix aphrodisiacs. Include some of the following foods to reap the rewards of more romantic romps!

Granola Gets the Juices Flowing: When it comes to sex, blood circulation isn’t just important for men. Between the clitoris and the tissue surrounding the vulva, erectile response is also beneficial for a woman’s sexual experience.

For better blood flow, eat foods like granola, chickpeas, cashews, peanuts, walnuts and root vegetables. They’re all rich in L-Arginine, which improves sexual function by boosting circulation, and thus erectile response.

A Rule of Thumb (and Heart): Whatever is good for your heart is good for your sexual functions. We avoid saturated fats because they clog arteries, and for the reasons stated above, diminished circulation impedes sexual performance and pleasure.

On the other hand, too little fat can lead to less sexual desire. When fat (the good kind) is processed in the liver, the result is more testosterone (for him) and estrogen (for her). Greater quantities of these hormones dictate the level of your sex drive, and can be achieved by ingesting good fats such as monounsaturated and polyunsaturated. Find both of these healthy fats in salmon, nuts and olive oil for when you need a fried food fix!

Soy: a Girl’s Best Friend: Upping your soy intake has a number of beneficial effects to your sexual experiences. Soy binds oestrogen receptors, which not only helps the vagina to stay lubricated, but also diminishes symptoms of menopause like hot flashes – so pass the tofu!

Guys can also benefit from having a soyfriend, as studies have shown that it keeps the prostate healthy. It is, however, important to mention that this is not for everyone; women with any history of breast cancer should not eat large amounts of soy and other estrogen receptor-binding foods.

Use It, Don’t Lose It: So now that your diet is optimized for more O’s, what do you do with this newfound fitness? Share it of course!

Eating the proper food is only half the battle when it comes to maintaining your healthy sensuality, so be sure to make good use of it with someone special by adding some of these intimate items to your chef’s kit; you and your partner (not to mention the hippos and tigers) will be glad you did!

Tiani 2

This remote-controlled wearable vibrator is perfect for intensifying sensations during lovemaking – just wear it and share it!

ALIA

The unique egg-like shape of our external waterproof vibrator turns up the wow factor of shared intimacy, and also makes for an even better bubble bath

Luna Beads and Luna Beads Mini

When it comes to sensual health, it all comes down to Kegels. Luna Beads and the new Luna Beads Mini are body-safe and effective aides for working out this important muscle set.

www.loveandindulgence.com.au