Mastering the Art of Skype Sex

Technology; some claim that it drives us apart and alienates us from each other. But if you’re one of the millions who are currently in a long-distance relationship, technology is all you have to bridge the gap between you and your lover. Lucky for these people, VoP software like Skype exists, and allows you to go the distance in spite of the distance.

And while getting sensual over Skype can feel a little intimidating or unnatural at first, remind yourself that every experimental pursuit takes some getting used to. Keeping this in mind, here are LELO’s top 5 Skype sex secrets:

Out with the Insecurity 
The biggest mistake people make while having Skype sex is dampening the mood by letting their insecurity or inexperience show by saying things like, I don’t know what to do or I’m feeling shy. There’s nothing quite as unsexy as a lack of confidence. If you’re feeling bashful or can’t think of anything sexy to say, here’s a hint: say nothing at all, and let your body do the talking.

Play by the Rules

Skype sex is just that—sex. That means that an arousing buildup of foreplay is just as important as it is during physical intercourse. Of course you need to adjust your tantalizing techniques accordingly (more on that later), but don’t make the experience seem unnatural or chore-like by saying things like Should we start now?  Enjoy a glass of wine together, ask about one another’s day, and fan the flames of desire with a simple physical compliment.

Keep it Real

While no substitute for the real thing, you might surprise yourself with how intense a session of Skype sex could be with a little creativity. Introduce a vibrator to your cyber session and supply him with an arousing visual while you experience some more-than-arousing sensations. Be sure to also use your vibrator to experiment with point-of-view positions and angles and communicate with one another to establish a mutual rhythm and pace.   

Know Your Role

Since Skype sex stimulates your imagination, why not take advantage of the opportunity to further explore some role-playing fantasies and fetishes? Before initiating a Skype call you intend to turn frisky, slip on a sexy role play outfit (e.g.—maid or nurse) your man has previously revealed fantasizing about underneath your pajamas or normal daywear. When the timing’s right, slowly reveal your outfit and apologize you can’t be there to pick his jaw up off the floor.

Redefine ‘Homecoming’

Since it’s inevitable that you’ll see one another again, plant a seed of sensual anticipation in his mind that will sprout until your eventual reunion. During Skype sex foreplay, let him know that there’s something else also longing for his arrival. Surprise him by visually introducing him to a remote-controlled couples’ bullet vibrator. Able to be used at a distance of over 100 feet, couples’ bullet vibrators offer an enticing alternative to ‘long-distance’ love-making that leaves nothing to the imagination.

While you may be unable to make a physical connection while your partner is away, Skype has shown us that an internet connection provides a kinkier-than-expected alternative to sex while awaiting the return to a lover’s arms.

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6 Surefire Ways to Get in the Mood

Recapture the feeling of the first days of your relationship; remember that bygone time when you could spend an entire day in bed together? There are plenty of ways to get back there, and following some of our handy advice will have you both back in the mood for makin’ love.

Hit the Gym

Simply put, when you feel good about your body image just good about yourself in general, you’ll be more likely in the mood for some sexual aerobics.

Your post-exercise surge in energy, and all the feel-good endorphins in your system will make sex a more attractive option when you’re winding down from that spin class or a trot on the treadmill.

Pro tip; head to the gym with your partner – seeing their body go through a workout is sure to get your worked up, and there will be less clothes for the eventual undressing to follow.

Get Comfortable

Look to your immediate surroundings, as they play a big part in how much you’re in the mood. One important thing to pay attention to is the thermostat, because according to research out of the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, something as simple as cold feet can come between a woman and her orgasm.

“At the beginning of the trial, only 50% of our female subjects were able to reach orgasm,” said study author Gert Holstege, M.D., PhD, “we learned that they were uncomfortable because they had cold feet. We gave them socks, and 80% reached orgasm.

Do Some Housework

Crossing off the niggling little tasks on your to-do list is actually quite satisfying, and that clearer mind state it creates will make you more open to enjoying sex. According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD “In order for women to relax into arousal and experience orgasm, the parts of the brain that associate with outside stressors must deactivate during sex,”

So do yourself a favor and make use of your elbow grease – you’ll thank us later!

Relax Together

Whatever you do to relax and set your mind at ease, do it together with your partner. If time permits, take a warm bath together or go out for a walk after a meal. The more relaxed and de-stressed you are as a couple will make it easier for you to get in the mood for making love.

Take 10 Minutes

Those having trouble with getting in the mood are people who want sex, but are perhaps not giving themselves a chance to.

Dr. Kerner states that ‘Even if you’re not in the mood, give yourself 10 minutes to give sex a shot.’ This will give your body a chance to catch up and desire what your mind wants so badly.

Get Close (for at least 30 seconds)

Studies show that holding your partner close for 30 seconds or more triggers the release of oxytocin, the hormone that emboldens trust and sexual desire between intimately familiar people. And while you’re both close, take a few deep breaths, as Dr. Kerner reminds us that “If you like your guy’s scent – and most women do, for biological reasons – it will usually function as an aphrodisiac.”

Getting intimate with the one closest to you does wonders for your mental space, and the facts are in that sex is great for your health – but what’s even better than all this? It feels good! 

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No French Word for ‘French Kiss’ – Until Now

Did you know that France’s hottest-ever export has never had a French name? And no, we’re not talking about baguettes.

The French kiss finally has a French name – something it has never had before. Surprising, non?

‘Galocher’ is the new term for tonsil hockey, and has been added to the 2014 edition of the Petit Robert French Dictionary that hit book stores earlier this month.

“We always had many expressions to describe ‘French-kissing,’ like ‘kissing at length in the mouth’” Says Laurence Laporte of the Robert Publishing House, “but it is true, we’ve never had one single word.”

A ‘galoche’ is the noun word for ice skate in French. The term ‘galocher’ has been around for a while as slang for French kissing, evocative of sliding smoothly around ice, or in and around your partner’s mouth in this case.

‘French kissing’ as a term was at one time limited to elite classes across Europe, but its use exploded after being brought back to North America by soldiers returning from the First World War telling of the more exotic sex practises the French were then famous for.

Despite the immense power of words over action, according to Laporte, the lack of a term for French kissing “never stopped us from doing it.”

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A Case for Casual Sex

Enjoy this hot topic!

If you’re single, then it's time to mingle! According to scientists, casual, no-strings sex can be just as emotionally and mentally rewarding as sex within a relationship can be.

A 2012 study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that sex in and out of relationships pose the same positive short-term effects, meaning that you don’t need a long-term partner to get the warm & fuzzy feel-good benefits of having sex.

The original hypothesis of the study was that women having sex outside of a relationship feel bad about doing so, viewing casual sex more negatively than males do. The happy irony however shows that this is anything but the case – it’s nice to be wrong sometimes, isn’t it?

Levels of sexual satisfaction, emotional well-being, enjoyment, and considering oneself attractive were nearly identical in both camps (the casual sex camp and the committed relationship sex camp). This is great news for single ladies hesitant to engage in a one night stand for fear of emotional fallout; however one finding of the study was that women were more likely than men to come away from a casual encounter with worries about their health, which is only natural, right?

We’re not ones to argue with science – so ladies, stay satisfied and stay safe and make sure your using  Big Richard condoms ! 

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