How to Choose Your First Sex Toy

You’ve probably read about them in magazines or online. Maybe your friend owns one. Even though you’ve never tried one, you’ve always been intrigued…what would it feel like? How would it work for you? How would it enhance your lovemaking? If you’re ready to answer those questions, here are a few things you might want to consider when choosing your first sex toy;

Before putting down your hard-earned cash, sit down with your partner and do some online research; just browsing through the listings with your partner can be a very stimulating first step in your erotic journey. The internet provides all sorts of user reviews so you can find out detailed, first-hand opinions about the benefits and limitations of each particular product. You’ll be surprised what you learn about each other as you each discover new favorites.

After deciding on the style you want, it’s time to get some hands-on experience. Try heading to a reputable store in your community so you can see things up close and personal. Many shops will have display samples that you can use to get a better understanding of their effects as well as knowledgeable staff who can provide a wealth of information. While you’re examining each product, keep these points of consideration in mind:

Size: Too big? Too small? Remember that size is a personal thing and no matter how popular an item is, it has to be just right for you. Many first time users like to start small, with something like a clitoral massager, as they are less intimidating and offer a nice introduction to the pleasures you can experience. Once you are more familiar with using a toy with your lovemaking, you might want to try something a little more adventurous.

Shape: Try to imagine how the form will feel when you’re using it. Does it have multiple angles and contours to reach different hot-spots?

Power: How strong is it? How loud is it? Does it have all the vibration possibilities you’re looking for? Or is it just a simple on/off? Is it rechargeable? Or will you have to fumble with batteries? (Probably not something you want to be doing in the heat of the moment.)

Materials & Texture: Some people prefer a hard surface while others prefer a softer, squishier texture for their Pleasure Objects. The choice is up to you, but whatever you decide, be sure to choose materials that are 100% safe to be used on (and in) your body. Look for body safe materials that are FDA approved and phthalate-free (like all LELO products). Your body will thank you for it!

After seeing several different products in action, you will be a lot more prepared if you choose to make your next purchase via the Internet. Remember that whether shopping online or in a store, it’s a lot more fun and exciting when you’re doing it with a friend or lover, so don’t be shy about it:

Have fun!

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Random Sex Facts You Didn’t Know

So you know everything there is to know about sex, do you? You’ve covered all the ins and outs of the ol’ in-and-out? Been around the block so many times that there’s a street named after you?

Hopefully you’re not so wise as to be forever unsurprised.

Anything worth taking pleasure in is a lifelong pursuit of wisdom in itself, and we’d be surprised if you knew every one of the following sex facts on our list; so strap in and get ready to take notes, because school is now in session!

The Average Erect Penis is 5 to 5.7 Inches Long

Bet you thought 6 inches was the normal size, didn’t you? Well, that fabled figure of 6 inches is one that’s been rounded up for many years now (most likely by guys), which admittedly is not the most surprising statistic we’ve got, considering that…

…Your Vagina Also Grows During Arousal – A Lot!

Regularly (read; when you’re not turned on), an average vagina is three to four inches long. When you’re in the mood for sex however, it stretches to 200% its normal size!

Her Orgasm Lasts 4 Times Longer than His

While it may take a woman longer to get there, when she arrives at climax it’s a worthwhile journey. This is because compared to a man’s orgasm, which lasts an average of a paltry 6 seconds, a woman’s orgasm can go on for as long as 20 seconds! High fives, ladies! Solemn nods, gentlemen.

Good news, right? But hold on a minute there, because…

…Two-thirds of Women have Faked It

And by ‘it’, we of course mean an orgasm.

Seriously? That kind of false reinforcement isn’t going to ensure your satisfaction in the long term if he thinks what he’s doing is getting you off. If you’ve got a partner who’s truly interested in pleasing you, and you’re a big fan of pleasure yourself, let them know what it takes to reach your big O.

Women Report 4 Sex Partners in their Lifetime. Men Report 7

The American Centers for Disease Control estimate that women’s total median of lifetime sexual partners is 4 compared to a man’s 7, but there’s a bit more to this stat than first meets the eye.

First off, men are much more likely to exaggerate when it comes to sex compared to women, but this is in part due to what an individual’s definition of ‘sex’ even is in the first place. Women tend to have a more complex relationship with sex and intimacy than men, making their definition a bit more involved and harder-defined. In any case, it’s worth keeping in mind that these figures are medians, meaning there are more or less on either side.

We’ll end the lesson here for now and let you study up on your own –the homework is the best part!

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